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    Awww yeah I understand where you are coming from with that. It just seems he is like that as a protection for himself and your protection is a little more emotional and upfront. You both seem to have different approaches to things. I am sure he feels a lot of worry about everything but it seems he is trying to shield himself and you from that pain. Just keep letting him know you are there for him. Let him know that you are here for him to be vulnerable with. Be his support and in turn he will be yours and give you what you need. It is the best compromise for a relationships. My fiance and I are like that. But we had to work with each others feelings to grow and love and trust each other. You will get there. Do not worry. You will get there! Just be there for him and he will be there for you.
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    sorry this sent a lot my phone went crazy lol
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    heck yeah! And just like you right after we saying how we felt to each other he the threw the bombshell that he was going to deploy in about a month in a half. It really was a huge slap in the face. I know exactly how you feel. It also felt like pulling teeth waiting for him to leave. But really that ie the worse part. When it is over and you are distracted by counting the days it won't be so hard. But the only to get over the feeling of him leaving is trust in him and your relationship with him. You have to. That means figuring out why you feel that way and facing it with him. Communication is always best. Especially after yall having the trust conversation.
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    heck yeah! And just like you right after we saying how we felt to each other he the threw the bombshell that he was going to deploy in about a month in a half. It really was a huge slap in the face. I know exactly how you feel. It also felt like pulling teeth waiting for him to leave. But really that ie the worse part. When it is over and you are distracted by counting the days it won't be so hard. But the only to get over the feeling of him leaving is trust in him and your relationship with him. You have to. That means figuring out why you feel that way and facing it with him. Communication is always best. Especially after yall having the trust conversation.
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    So I am sure even though he sees it as his job this year wil be hard for him because he is leaving the love of his lfe for a year. Trust in your relationship. Trust in him and yourself and you will be okay. Do not get over missing him because you do and will miss him. It is okay to miss him now and then. Deployment is a big thing. It just seems you hve a lot of emotion you need to get out in general about the situation. If not at him at someone or something. Do you write? Try writing a letter. In general. Or write him a letter of how you love him so he can keep it with him. Or get him a meaningful gift that shows your love or do both. Give him part of you and your love and feeling will be with him. I felt everything you did when my Fiance was about to deploy. And at the time we were only together for 3 months and he was leaving. I was an emotional wreck but things got so much easier with time and understanding. Take the time. Sorry this is a lot lol I just feel for you and want to let you know it is okay. You really can talk or yell to me anytime you need lol I am sure there is a lot we can help each other with
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    Truthfully the waiting for him to deploy is the hardest but that is because you do not know what I next. It seems like forever! Your feelings are not wrong at all. But you know surviving the waiting game with all the feelings will make surviving the deployment easier. Not easy but easier. Keep strong with waiting and it will benefit you a lot. And things will always be okay when you have some connection with him whether is be phone call, in person...It means he is talking with you and still with you. You will have those moments a lot but when you do have these moments remember that even when he is gone he is with you. He is thinking about you all the same. You most likely feel this way because he feels the same for you. It is okay to be sad. Feel it and when you are done letting it out let that strength of being sad push you to keep going because to feel that strong only means love. Over time you will have an entire day of no crying. You will have many no crying days but you cannot forget that through this you need the days to feel. The help a lot. I am sure he will never get tired of hearing you lovinghim and missing him. That is what will keep him going through the deployment. You are his strength.
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    Hey Allie! I am Kim I have been with my fiancé for about the same amount of years. He has been in the military for our whole relationship but I still am very new to it. I hope we can be friends! I can see there is a lot of things we can help each other with The good thing about him feeling that way is that it means he loves you and is trying to protect you. But before he deploys talk to him! It will help a lot. My fiance did the same thing with me before his deployment and after we realize she should have had the talk before about handlng it. Really if you ever want to talk about anything I am here nd you know what I am sure we will be good friends
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Date of Birth
January 25, 1994 (28)
About Animerai
Real Name:
Allie
Gender:
Female
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None
Status:
Committed
How I Met My Military Significant Other:
I met my SO while we were both in high school.At the time I was a sophomore and sports trainer for my schools different sports teams and he was a senior football player. In the beginning I had no interest in him whatsoever, he was that annoying guy that kept pestering me for a number and eventually my friends convinced me to give in and see if he was an ok guy. We started talking and eventually became friends but never told each other how we felt. He ended up graduating and going to a college in another state but a week or so before he left we bother admitted to liking each other. I can't say that's when the relationship started and I'm actually not sure what you'd call it but we kept talking and texting and flirting to speak until he showed up one day during the summer and asked me on a date. I suppose that's how you could say this relationship started. Later that year he told me he was interested in enlisting in the Airforce. His reasoning was he wanted a career with benefits and wanted to be able to provide for me and himself in the future. (Hard to be mad at him when he gives a reason like that. He told me when he'd be leaving for his training and after that the days seemed to pass so quickly until he left. Granted I cried for days but wrote him a billion letters while he was in training when he later told me helped him get through it all.And now were happily committed to each other getting ready to try and make it through his first deployment
About Me:
I'm a pretty quiet person. I like to read and daydream a lot. I'm in college and hoping to graduate and go to Law school.
About Us:
About a year and a half ago my SO told me he was interested in enlisting in the Airforce. His reasoning was he wanted a career with benefits and wanted to be able to provide for me and himself in the future. (Hard to be mad at him when he gives a reason like that. He told me when he'd be leaving for his training and after that the days seemed to pass so quickly until he left. Granted I cried for days but wrote him a billion letters while he was in training when he later told me helped him get through it all.And now were happily committed to each other getting ready to try and make it through his first deployment
Interests & Hobbies:
Reading Romance Novels, Watching Anime, Occasional Writing,Cooking, Shopping
Music:
Pop, Hip Hop, Kpop, JPop, Rap
Beyonce,Namie Amuro, Trina, Britney Spears, etc
Television:
The Big Bang Theory, Extreme Couponing,Sleepy Hollow,2 Broke Girls
Movies:
Warm Bodies, X-Men First Class, Rise of the Guardians,Gravity
Reading:
Dragon Actually, Poison Study, Fire Study, Magic Study
Occupation:
Full-time College Student

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