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  1. thank you. You have a very good. I know that I have to give somethings up. thank you.
  2. Well something you have to take into consideration when dating someone in the military is whether or not you can take the hardships of the military life. I assume you two met while he was already enlisted? It wouldn't be fair if you asked him to not reenlist if that was something he wanted to do. It goes both ways though. He needs to understand and accept the things you want to do with your life. If you wanted to go to school or whatever. As much as it sucks to think about the many times we will be apart, I encourage my boyfriend to make a career out of the military because it's what he wants. He understands that I want to be in school.....for a long time.lol. As much as you love him, you can get used to this way of life. It's not like you'll never see him again.
  3. I have talked to nathan and i told him what I was thinking . it helps when I tell him what I was thinking . I am beginning to feel like no one wants to support me and my relationship except for his cousin and nathan's family . I feel like that no won can be happy for me . Yes this has been hard to me and i have had my moments where I want him here and I am crying. I know when he comes home very thing will be good . I asked him to make this leave period just for us and I told him that he can see his parents . I told him that we need our time together . he has been thinking about reuping his contract . I want him to come home and be with me and at the same time i want him to stay in the navy . i don't know what to do ?
  4. Unfortunately, that happens a lot. I've read a lot of posts just on this site about less than supportive family members and friends. I can tell you from experience that sometimes what's best is to stop letting those people into the details of your relationship. My best friend was one of these people and it ultimately led to us not speaking anymore. She eventually broke the ice and started talking to me again but being a military girlfriend requires some kind of emotional support. It isn't fair for us to have to endure deployment AND sucky friends or family. I'm not encouraging you to cut ties with anyone but just to reevaluate your relationships. I hope you two get everything worked out when he comes home You can always message me if you need a little extra support.
  5. Nathan is currently deployed. I talked to him about it and we both decided to talk about it when he comes home that way we can do on our terms and no one else . I am hoping that he comes home in December that way we can talk about this . I was letting everyone that I know get to me about my relationship and I finally told him that other people are talking crab about him and I . I finally was like screw this it is our relationship and no one else . It piss me off when people do that. I know that we get through this deployment. it has been a rough one. thanks again.
  6. I hope you guys can figure out a way to be together and both feel fulfilled in your lives. It's good to hear that his family likes you. I don't know if you told me already or not but where's he at now? He's currently deployed, right?
  7. The last time i phyical saw him was in may before was deployed. I get to see him on skype. Skype helps but it is not the same to have him in my arms. I recently talked to him about it and he heard me out . I know that he knows this hard on me. I told him how I felt and i told him that I can't help him if he doesn't talk to me about how he is feeling . he told me that he was scared to and he doesn't know what job he wants to do in the navy and he can provide for his family. I spend time with his dad and his step-mom. They love me . I talked to him about his leave for when he comes home and I told him that I wanted his whole leave to be with me . To me that is being selfish but, I know we need that time together that we didn't get to have last time . I have thought about going down to San Diego to spend time with him but i am in school and I am working too . I am confident in our relationship and i know i want to spend the rest of my life with him. I told him that I want to do is have a long engagement then when it is time for us to get married then we will. He knows about the feeling that I have of losing him . I told him that I am not pushing him to pop the question. I am thinking that i will spend time with him when he visits his family . He wants me to get to know his mom which I am convinced that she doesn't like me . I know that I won't lose him but that feel just go way .
  8. Maybe you should invest the time and money to drive down to San Diego. You can spend time with him while he visits his family. It gives you a chance to get to know them too if you already don't. Maybe asking for your hand in marriage will help you feel like you won't lose him but it would be even better if you felt that confident in your relationship before you get married. School is an option almost everywhere you go so that's a positive. When was the last time you've seen him?
  9. Thank you . I really needed a girl's option on this . I agree with you on spending more time with each other, there is a road block with that too. Nathan's parents are divorced. Just like mine. When he is on leave he always divides his time between his parents and siblings. Now that he has me he wants to spend every waking moment with me. So now he has to divided his leave between his parents and me. To me that is a little unfair that he has to do that. He also is stationed in San Diego. that is what is hard is that he is down there and i am in northern CA. We Skype , talk on the phone , text when he is home. he wants me to finish school before we get married but I want to be an interpreter for the Deaf and that is a lot of school. If he wants to get married while I am in school I am fine with that and if he wants to do a family too then i want to put off school to raise my kids then go back like my aunt did. i don't know if he is ready . he wants to wait to pop the question because he thinks it is to soon. I have had my heart dragged by a ex of mine and he really hurt me so I always feel like I will lose Nathan . He tells me that he is never leaving but that doesn't change that feeling and I feel like if he pops the question then the feeling will go way. He is my life and soul mate .
  10. Well I'm no expert at this but I'll give you an outsider's perspective. I think you might want to spend more time together before you commit to marriage. It's good that he's a planner but there is also an essence of going with the flow. Don't get married just because you planned it but if you truly feel that you are ready, until you know he's ready, and that your relationship is ready. Take into account your education. Will you be able to comfortably go to school and maintain your relationship? I think an important aspect is that you know in your heart and in your head that he is ready to be married to you. I'd hate for you to be unsure whether or not he feels ready to be committed to you. You're not pushing him away if you are protecting your interests. He has to be willing to cut some corners for you to do what you want, like going to school for example, as well as you are willing to endure his deployments alone and so forth. When you both feel confident enough in your relationship then I congratulate you This is something that you both should be discussing, however. I'm somewhat in the same boat with you. Chris and I have talked about a future together but current circumstances have put a block in that road for now. It's something we still should address. Keep me updated with your relationship with Nathan I hope I've given you something to chew on but like I said, I'm no expert.lol
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