Jax23
Regular Member

thats fine! and im doing good hope everything is well with you!

I say that I "Hate" the military and the army all the time. Does it mean I actually mean it? No. But I do agree it's so frustrating and you're looking for someone to blame, so you take it out on him. I was really moody and fought about it for about two weeks before he deployed, i just really didn't want him to go. I always think of how different it could be, if he just went to college, and stayed in virginia. It would make life so much easier. We could get married, get an apartment. But things aren't always the way you like them and awwh I would send tons & tons of pics to my boyfriend, It makes them feel special and gives them something to brag about and hang up. Even every day stuff they love getting because it gives them a sense of being normal, which they so long for. You're not an awful person whatsoever. You're a military wife & a mom. We all have days where we curse the military, but in the end, it makes us stronger.

I think the same things about my DB, that the last phone call we had could actually be our last Just be lucky that you're with him, I didn't even get to see my man before he deployed I saw him 2 months before he deployed, then he was training and didn't get off. Haha, no it's not too much tmi.. Birth control is one crazy a** pill. You're probably not as bad as you think, you're just stressed, I mean who wouldn't be? You're a new mom and this is all too much for you. That's why I joined, I needed some ladies who understand and can relate to what I'm going through. It is awful, in everyway, to think about that possibility, but it is a reality and does happen. It will always be running through our minds, but we have to try and hide that and act strong for our soldiers who need us. I'm the same way, I always expect the worst, but hope for the best. I bet once you get some more sleep and things become a little less crazy, the bitterness and moody attitude will also calm down.

Instead of sitting around being sad, try putting that energy elsewhere and spending time doing fun things with your son and loving him with all you've got. You can do it, I know you can Faith. Faith & Love, that's all you need. And while he's still here, try to make the best of EVERY second and don't let the small little things get to you. You'll regret it later. Worrying in advance I've learned is pointless and doesn't help anything, but makes you more upset and stresses out your SO. And when you don't feel like you can handle it, you've got us & me well support you every step of the way!

You're not alone with that one, before my man left I was bitter too, I think it's just a way of venting. You know you can't prevent them from going, and that upsets you, so you turn bitter because it's a last resort. It happens to even the most supportive. Awwh, ten weeks old! I bet he's a cutie I think that's the hardest part about being a military girlfriend/wife/whatever that we always feel we need to be the strong ones and we need to be extra supportive because they have to deal with the pain and lonliness and go over there and fight, but it still hurts. My DB'S mom has been married to an army officer since she was 18, and she says that even after all this time, it still gets to her. Just being supportive at all and standing by him means your strong. Not wanting to do something, but doing it anyways, that's pretty darn tough! You can be strong, no question about it. A deployment can be miserable or preaceful, it's all about the way you take it. I miss my boyfriend more than anything in the world, but I know that he's over there fighting for us back home and that makes me proud. Ever since he's been in the military, I've got a new sense of pride for those men out there on the front line. I guess getting a behind the scene view of what it's like is one of the reasons. While he's gone, take tons of videos, make a scapbook of all the important milestones and new things your son does, so that when your Husband returns, you can get him fully caught up.

I totally understand! I have been dreading my DB's deployment months in advance.. sometime I even start missing him before he even goes back to his post. That is a very long time and I could only imagine how hard it will be (hugs), especially raising your son for a whole year without Daddy there. How old's your baby boy? But, you know what, it will just show what a strong mother and wife you are.

Oh my, I wish you both the best of luck! 6 or 9 months?

Really? Do you know where to yet?

I need relationship help like seriously things aren't as amazing as I hoped they'd be once my boyfriend has gotten outta basic. It's like I don't know him anymore and he cares less and just treats me like crap now and it was never like this before and now he's saying we should break up and I honestly feel like the old boyfriend I know and love so much is hiding in changed boyfriend and I'm just holding on because I just know he'll come around soon. Have you had this problem before like what should I do? Like I really don't wanna lose him because I love him so much :'( I just don't know what to do anymore and this hurts so much. Please help.

Hey Jax! It's nice to meet you I'm Alexzandria!