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It's my first day with him gone.

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by , 07-14-2008 at 12:13 AM (1024 Views)
He'll be gone for five months at boot camp and I'm new to this. We have been together for 1 year and 5 months. This is really hard. I've never had to go through something like this in my life. I love him so much. I can't eat and all I want to do is sleep. I need help and someone to talk to. I'm 18 years old. God, I miss him.

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  1. AFgf5507's Avatar
    oh wow, im right there with ya. My boyfriend hasnt left yet, but its coming up soon and im already getting depressed. Its going to be the hardest thing, but its definatley worth it in the long run :)
  2. BooBoolovesCoCo's Avatar
    I just went through the whole basic thing.My guy has been home for about 6 months now.
    Ive been with him for 6 years and him leaving was not easy. Im 19.
    Basic wasnt hard and believe me, he'll miss you just as much as you're going to miss him.
    Those first couple of weeks are going to be hardest for him and he'll need you there to tell him things are going to be ok.
    It gets a little easier after that..but still not completely better.
    Love really does conquer all.
  3. JennyLynn1211's Avatar
    My husband is in Basic Training right now. The best thing that I can tell you from my experience is make sure you have something to do to fill up your time. It makes things go so much faster. I agree with BooBoolovesCoCo the first couple of weeks are very hard but you have to be his rock and tell me to tuff through it. Just tell him that you love him and to be strong.
  4. KyraLynn's Avatar
    my boyfriend has been in basic for a little over a month now and it is def. hard...just make sure ur day is filled with activities and it makes it go by much quicker...i am only 20 and i've gone through the whole depression stage but i promise u he is missing u just as much as u miss him...just have faith in ur strength as a couple and everything will be fine
  5. simplyy7's Avatar
    im right there with you too. im going to be 18 soon, and my boyfriend is deployed.. hes been gone for 2 months already. we still have at least 10 to go. im still in high school and i havent gone in the past 2 days and the only thing ive eaten in the past 2 weeks is chicken broth and noodles. so i know exactly what youre going through hun. do you get to talk to him at all?
  6. kirkpatrick_31's Avatar
    my boyfriend is deployed right now its been a little more than a week. Its hard but I started knitting (i know) and It is the most amazing thing I'm going to send it to him while he is over there. Just think about the future (I dont know how commited you are to him) but thats what I do ... best of luck
  7. Hope0213's Avatar
    I'm here with ya too. My db's been gone to boot since sept and he was supposed to be done in jan but now hes doing jump school so it might be another month its hard but keep your head up and be strong for him and keep busy all the time lol
  8. AmericanProud19's Avatar
    The first day is the worst. I remember that I just cried and slept all day. It does get a little easier with time. Just be optimistic and take advantage of the time you have to yourself. Take up a hobby that you've been interested in and send him lots of cute and useful packages. I'll keep you in my prayers :)
  9. SOMETIMESsweet's Avatar
    & this is exactly why I LOVE this site! there are many people on here who know exactly how u feel and know what to tell you especially if your knew to this and your family and friends dont understand your point of view. Its frustrating, I know. My sailor left on his first deployment in October. It is now December and we talk constantly not by phone but by email. At first I was some what upset that that was the only option we have but I had to remember this is the life I chose. You have to appreciate every phone call you recieve from him, but until then if you recieve letter or email from him write nothing but positive things. If not your just going to add more stress on his back. Remember what hes doing and what his job is. You'll be ok just let yourself get use to things for the first couple of weeks.