future mil issues - Weddings

harrisonsdream · 02-28-2006, 09:07 AM

i'm not sure if this should go in here or in the regular girl talk section but i'll post here. okay my fmil says that she's hoping to invite all the family coming to the rehersal that is coming from out of town for the wedding, that's like 40 individual people not including their guests!!!!

i think it should just be the bridal party you know me and df, the parents on both sides, the ushers, and attendants for both of us (3 attendants for me 3 for him), not the whole family! i've talked to him about it and i can't really say anything to his mom because she is paying for the rehearsal dinner. plus my fmil is saying that a buffet/serving line at the reception is too fancy for a 530 or 6 at night reception. i'm thinking that if people are coming all the way from cali., MS, NY, and Fl they are gonna want some FOOD!!!!

:eat i know i would. what do you think? i'm not asking who's right or wrong but traditionally regarding the rehersal who all is there?

Rachael · 02-28-2006, 12:45 PM

traditionally just the bridal party, but when I was at JoAnn's (ricky'sgirl) wedding about a year ago, some of her il's family went since they were paying for it. Didnt really bother her or anybody though....especially since they were paying!

Brialee · 02-28-2006, 01:26 PM

If they're paying, I say go for it. It'll give you an extra day to get to know everybody if you haven't already. If you were paying for it then I would've kept it to just the bridal party,imo

harrisonsdream · 02-28-2006, 02:41 PM

well i was over there at xmas and i met 90% of them. i mean its awhile away before we do the rehersal dinner, december but i let df know and he understands but i think its a tradition for them or something because his sister had it and another family friend had it that too. if she doesn't budge on it i'll have him casually say something to her. what do ya'll think about having the buffet/serving line, like actually having people to serve you but you go through and pick what you want? is this too "fancy" for a 530 or 600 wedding?

Brialee · 02-28-2006, 02:52 PM

not at all, I think the buffet is a great idea. I don't think it's too fancy.

Frankie Lee · 02-28-2006, 05:22 PM

Originally Posted by Brialee

not at all, I think the buffet is a great idea. I don't think it's too fancy.

Ditto!!

Joy · 02-28-2006, 05:57 PM

Buffet would probably be better. That way, people can pick what they want to eat.

Me&D · 02-28-2006, 06:13 PM

Are you talking about the wedding reception? WHY would a served buffet at 6 pm be too fancy? I mean, if that's too fancy then what time is proper for a sit down served dinner?? I've been to 3pm sit down dinner receptions

Me&D · 02-28-2006, 06:14 PM

Whoops, I just realized how sharp I sounded in that post. I didn't mean to be, it's just that your f mil's opinion seems so strange to me.

Sophie* · 02-28-2006, 06:21 PM

I dont think a buffet is fancy at all - it's exactly what I'd do. It's your wedding and you can have a buffet if you want one. I know my family would be complaining if there wasn't any food around! As for the rehearsal dinner, if she's paying for it there's not a hell of a lot you can do to protest. It's only one evening....

02-28-2006, 09:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,170 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	future mil issues i'm not sure if this should go in here or in the regular girl talk section but i'll post here. okay my fmil says that she's hoping to invite all the family coming to the rehersal that is coming from out of town for the wedding, that's like 40 individual people not including their guests!!!! i think it should just be the bridal party you know me and df, the parents on both sides, the ushers, and attendants for both of us (3 attendants for me 3 for him), not the whole family! i've talked to him about it and i can't really say anything to his mom because she is paying for the rehearsal dinner. plus my fmil is saying that a buffet/serving line at the reception is too fancy for a 530 or 6 at night reception. i'm thinking that if people are coming all the way from cali., MS, NY, and Fl they are gonna want some FOOD!!!! :eat i know i would. what do you think? i'm not asking who's right or wrong but traditionally regarding the rehersal who all is there?

02-28-2006, 12:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
Rachael Lil Wayne's Future Wifey Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 23,718 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 11% Longevity: 99%	traditionally just the bridal party, but when I was at JoAnn's (ricky'sgirl) wedding about a year ago, some of her il's family went since they were paying for it. Didnt really bother her or anybody though....especially since they were paying! __________________ Fall seven times, stand up eight. Japanese proverb http://www.thegourmetcupboard.com Independent Distributor #4313 Biggest Loser Team Purple!! Mrs Ski and myself!!!

02-28-2006, 06:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
Me&D Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 775 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 92%	Are you talking about the wedding reception? WHY would a served buffet at 6 pm be too fancy? I mean, if that's too fancy then what time is proper for a sit down served dinner?? I've been to 3pm sit down dinner receptions __________________ Fund Food For Animals in Shelters - It's Free. Click Here http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/c...s/CTDSites.woa

02-28-2006, 06:14 PM	#9 (permalink)
Me&D Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 775 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 92%	Whoops, I just realized how sharp I sounded in that post. I didn't mean to be, it's just that your f mil's opinion seems so strange to me. __________________ Fund Food For Animals in Shelters - It's Free. Click Here http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/c...s/CTDSites.woa

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02-28-2006, 01:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
Brialee Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,455 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 21% Longevity: 71%	If they're paying, I say go for it. It'll give you an extra day to get to know everybody if you haven't already. If you were paying for it then I would've kept it to just the bridal party,imo

02-28-2006, 02:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,170 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	well i was over there at xmas and i met 90% of them. i mean its awhile away before we do the rehersal dinner, december but i let df know and he understands but i think its a tradition for them or something because his sister had it and another family friend had it that too. if she doesn't budge on it i'll have him casually say something to her. what do ya'll think about having the buffet/serving line, like actually having people to serve you but you go through and pick what you want? is this too "fancy" for a 530 or 600 wedding?

02-28-2006, 02:52 PM	#5 (permalink)
Brialee Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,455 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 21% Longevity: 71%	not at all, I think the buffet is a great idea. I don't think it's too fancy.

02-28-2006, 06:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
Sophie* MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 14,225 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 68%	I dont think a buffet is fancy at all - it's exactly what I'd do. It's your wedding and you can have a buffet if you want one. I know my family would be complaining if there wasn't any food around! As for the rehearsal dinner, if she's paying for it there's not a hell of a lot you can do to protest. It's only one evening....