Saigon & Ducky wedding

[Saigon]

OK, so I've not even been engaged for 48 hours and I've received 10 emails asking for dates and details

So I get the feeling I've got to get my ass in gear and get this wedding planning crap together.

So far I know that the wedding will most likely (95% certainty) be in Spokane, WA.

Our honeymoon will probably (80% certainty) be at a Sandals resort right after the wedding.

I want to budget about $17,000 for the wedding/reception. (this will more than likely change)

With Ducky's deployments changing the date I was originality thinking about probably won't work.

So I'm thinking late Spring or Late Summer/Early Autumn 2011. (This will of course change :eyeroll as the military is the military)


Would it be weird to have a morning wedding and then like a brunch reception? Like wedding at 9:30 or 10 and the reception starting at 11?

That way we can leave right from the reception to drive to Seattle to catch a flight to our honeymoon location.

Also, I would think a brunch buffet would be less expensive than a seated dinner.

I'm thinking of not having a bar. We both have recovering alcoholics in our families and I'd rather not deal with it.

Could I still do a champagne toast with a brunch? I know I've seen it done before...but would it make us look a bit like lushes?

How exceptionally rude would it be not to invite young children? I've considered hiring a couple sitters and having like a kids area during the ceremony/reception.

Rude? or well yeah I'm sure it is quite rude Ducky has a lot of young nieces and nephews under the age of 3 and a lot of our friends have kids..


Thoughts? Yes, I am rambling

[nicoleclare]

i think a mimosa toast would be cute for brunch

i really like the brunch idea but im not a big fan of traditional

[bb1982]

As for the kids part- it's really common not to invite them. The last wedding I went to the invitation said, "Adult reception to follow" I thought that was a tasteful way to say, "Hey, don't bring your kids!"

[csmithwick_819]

Originally Posted by Saigon How exceptionally rude would it be not to invite young children? I've considered hiring a couple sitters and having like a kids area during the ceremony/reception. Rude? or well yeah I'm sure it is quite rude Ducky has a lot of young nieces and nephews under the age of 3 and a lot of our friends have kids.. Thoughts? Yes, I am rambling

I have never seen that done before but I think its a good idea. I knew a few people who got their own babysitter for our wedding because they were afraid their kids would act up, so I could see it as kind of a relief to parents that they wouldn't have to worry about a screaming or squirmy child during the ceremony.

[*sweetDREAms*]

!! I was stalking that thread about he was surprising you hehehe! I've actually been to a wedding where the kids were in the room until the bride made it down the aisle and then they were quietly escorted out so the nuptials would be completely quiet (this couple did their own vows...he sung a song and she read this long ass poem and then they did some other stuff...so it was LOOOOONG)

A champagne toast wouldn't make you lushes!! Although I've never been to a morning wedding before...that actually sounds awesome!!!

The rest of the message will be for happy emoticons..annnnndd gooo

[Saigon]

Originally Posted by csmithwick_819 I have never seen that done before but I think its a good idea. I knew a few people who got their own babysitter for our wedding because they were afraid their kids would act up, so I could see it as kind of a relief to parents that they wouldn't have to worry about a screaming or squirmy child during the ceremony.

Yeah, unfortunately I've heard rumors that his sister in law would WANT her child to be screaming during the ceremony just to make a scene.

And the way I see it, its just for a few hours. With it being a day event it would be easier for local parents to get child care...

But his SIL has hinted around that if MY daughter is allowed to attend her kids should be able to as well

[danyell]

I think that you should do whatever the hell you want to do. However, easier said then done, I know.

I'm all for not inviting children. I plan to do that myself.

[BubMunkeyBles]

It's your wedding so do what you want. We looked into the Brunch thing, but I really wanted a formal wedding. Our budget was about the same as yours and we were able to keep things really nice. I think its harder to say no kids for a morning wedding, but if you have a sitter and a kids room I see no issue. Sounds great! Enjoy the planning process! Start looking at vendors, the good ones fill up a year out.

[Saigon]

Originally Posted by nicoleclare i think a mimosa toast would be cute for brunch i really like the brunch idea but im not a big fan of traditional

Me either! Plus, if our flight isn't until later that night we could do an after party in Seattle hint hint Nicole

Originally Posted by bb1982 As for the kids part- it's really common not to invite them. The last wedding I went to the invitation said, "Adult reception to follow" I thought that was a tasteful way to say, "Hey, don't bring your kids!"

I was thinking of wording it like that myself

Originally Posted by *sweetDREAms* !! I was stalking that thread about he was surprising you hehehe! I've actually been to a wedding where the kids were in the room until the bride made it down the aisle and then they were quietly escorted out so the nuptials would be completely quiet (this couple did their own vows...he sung a song and she read this long ass poem and then they did some other stuff...so it was LOOOOONG) A champagne toast wouldn't make you lushes!! Although I've never been to a morning wedding before...that actually sounds awesome!!! The rest of the message will be for happy emoticons..annnnndd gooo

Thank you!!!!! I'm so excited

[MS234755]

I think ALL of it is an awesome idea I see nothing wrong with "no kids" if you hire a sitter. If you don't want trouble with a bar, don't have one. Have champagne if you want. Have it in the morning if you want. Hon- it's YOURS AND HIS day!!!!! WHATEVER you guys want, you should do, especially since YOU'RE paying, and none of your ideas are outrageous to accommodate. I can't wait for pictures of what you pick out!!!!!