Wedding

[Rach]

Anyone lose sleep over the planning of theirs?

That's how I feel lately

Don't get me wrong, I'm VERY happy I get to have a wedding & that my parents are even helping us, but I can't help stressing over some things. In the back of my mind I think about how nice an elopement would be

But anyways, I know it comes w/ the price of your parents helping, but I can't help being worried how my stepmom is going to handle this. She didn't really like the mid morning/ afternoon reception idea, she thinks people who are dating someone (but not living together) should be able to bring a date, she doesn't like the idea of having most everyone drive 30 min. out of the way to the site when most of the people all live in pretty much 1 location, and etc.



For one, I personally feel its our right to tell someone they cannot bring a guest (if they don't live w/ the person or aren't engaged) b/c we're on a budget! Everyone that will come will know at least 2 people! My friends that are invited know at least 2 people! I suggested letting their "dates" come after dinner.

Well, all I can say is she knows how much him & I can afford to put in so the rest is up to them if she has this certain idea of how things should be done. I really don't care how everything is done as long as I get the dress I want (which I will b/c we're buying that), I have the people I want in my wedding, I pick the colors, the cake, the music, and help w/ the decorating. All of which I will do. Otherwise, she can take on the headache of the reception part

I'm just nervous right now how everything will pan out b/c right now we're going over the guest list. Once we finally chose the venue, I'll feel better.

I'm losing sleep over this though, and I already don't get enough sleep Just can't help going over in my head about all this!

I wish I had a small family...This would be so much easier! The list is going to come out to over 100 people b/c she wants to add more...

[Sophie*]

YES!! Don't worry - I think everyone who doesn't elope worries about something to do with their wedding. It sounds like it's going to pan out fine though, and I'm sure you'll have a beautiful wedding

[Bex]

Originally Posted by Rach Anyone lose sleep over the planning of theirs? That's how I feel lately Don't get me wrong, I'm VERY happy I get to have a wedding & that my parents are even helping us, but I can't help stressing over some things. In the back of my mind I think about how nice an elopement would be But anyways, I know it comes w/ the price of your parents helping, but I can't help being worried how my stepmom is going to handle this. She didn't really like the mid morning/ afternoon reception idea, she thinks people who are dating someone (but not living together) should be able to bring a date, she doesn't like the idea of having most everyone drive 30 min. out of the way to the site when most of the people all live in pretty much 1 location, and etc. For one, I personally feel its our right to tell someone they cannot bring a guest (if they don't live w/ the person or aren't engaged) b/c we're on a budget! Everyone that will come will know at least 2 people! My friends that are invited know at least 2 people! I suggested letting their "dates" come after dinner. Well, all I can say is she knows how much him & I can afford to put in so the rest is up to them if she has this certain idea of how things should be done. I really don't care how everything is done as long as I get the dress I want (which I will b/c we're buying that), I have the people I want in my wedding, I pick the colors, the cake, the music, and help w/ the decorating. All of which I will do. Otherwise, she can take on the headache of the reception part I'm just nervous right now how everything will pan out b/c right now we're going over the guest list. Once we finally chose the venue, I'll feel better. I'm losing sleep over this though, and I already don't get enough sleep Just can't help going over in my head about all this! I wish I had a small family...This would be so much easier! The list is going to come out to over 100 people b/c she wants to add more...

that's precisely why we have an "invitee only" clause on our invitation. that way, people don't ASSUME they can just bring a guest because they want to. i have actually had people ask me if they could and i've said no....

i guess i'm lucky in a sense, that my parents didn't contribute to it -- because they have NO RIGHT giving me advice... however, if they were financially backing us, i think i'd give them a little leeway in putting in their $.02

[jlbecker]

Sweety, take a deep breath! you have the right to invite or not invite whomever. Of course everyone has their 2 cents to put in, but it's ultimately up to you and they will get over it. even with all the money in the world, there are snags in every plan. but don't let it get you down. good luck!

[Bex]

i wanted to add... just relax and TRY to enjoy the process.

are you still thinking WI? i liked the package you had shown me sometime back.

...and i still like your "vision" -- don't lose sight of that -- its YOUR wedding

[Rach]

Unfortunately it isn't all about what *I* want when parents are helping We're both paying about the same amount, them maybe slightly more...So I have to let her help me...but oh well, we'll come to an agreement.

Yes, it will be in either southeastern WI or Northeastern IL.

[JudyB]

Oh yea...lost plenty of sleep!!! The worst though was when Josh was gone the 3 weeks before the wedding...then I was like...OMG ...had to remind myself to slow down and breathe and to enjoy everything now so that I could enjoy my day when it got here!!!

[Shanoony]

If I were you i'd tell her that if she's stuck on letting guests invite someone, she pay for those extra plates, otherwise it would be impossible to pay for...but don't let her take the joy away from planning your wedding, it's your day, not hers!! Congrats on gettn married by the way!

[Amber V]

Just an idea. Maybe you can pay for the wedding part and they can pay for reception part. It kind of sounds like that is where you are getting the most conflict with planning things. I am sure in the end it will all still work out just fine. Good luck.

[CoffeeGirl]

to you Rach-Enjoy your wedding sweety!