How do you plan for #2? - Trying to Conceive

KDMatthews · 04-30-2006, 07:31 AM

We had our son before my dh got to his first boat. Now, with their schedule, how do you plan for another one? Actually count out the months and guess that is when you'll get pregnant? My dh missed the birth of our son because I went into labor 3 weeks early, but I was at home with my family then, but now, I'd be 2,000 miles from them. I just don't want to do it alone.

Kaymara · 04-30-2006, 08:14 AM

Its all a guessing game. Unless you can KNOW without a doubt you will conceive a certain month then you can't really predeict it. And no one can know that....I think about the best thing you can do is figure out the time frame. So like we leave here to go back to sea duty in August of 07. Had I of gotten pregnant in April (no peoples we aren't actively trying

) I would of been due in January. May would be february and so on. If I didn't want to move with a new born or pregnant then we'd stop trying once I hit where I would be due in say June. And use protection from then on out.

It's a risk. We "planned" E in a sense. We had been trying for over 9years and decided to do the fertility meds when he was fixing to roll to shore duty. It worked. We got pregnant right before leaving sea duty and coming to shore. For us tho, we didn;t really care..We just wanted to get pregnant and having him home was a bonus!

Caimbrie · 04-30-2006, 08:35 AM

It was easy for Tony and I because he was transfering to a PCU, so he wouldn't be going to sea. We've been able to have 2 babies since he transfered hehe.

Ellen · 04-30-2006, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by Kaymara

It, we didn;t really care..We just wanted to get pregnant and having him home was a bonus!

I agree with Kaymara. If you both want to have a baby, havng him home at the birth would be a bonus. Being in the military, there are no guarantees that even if you "planned" when you wanted to have a baby that the military's plans dont change.
Just enjoy they process of becoming and being pregnant. If he's home for the birth Wonderful - but if for some reason he's not, the military is a BIG family. There will be people there for you. (JMO)

Kaymara · 04-30-2006, 10:21 AM

Originally Posted by parkwoodmom

I agree with Kaymara. If you both want to have a baby, havng him home at the birth would be a bonus. Being in the military, there are no guarantees that even if you "planned" when you wanted to have a baby that the military's plans dont change.
Just enjoy they process of becoming and being pregnant. If he's home for the birth Wonderful - but if for some reason he's not, the military is a BIG family. There will be people there for you. (JMO)

I agree. I just think no matter what ya plan it may not go exactly like that. When we decide to have another baby he may very well be on sea duty. But thats a risk. If he isn't home then he isn't home. I PREFER him home definatly. But if not we'll manage

04-30-2006, 07:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
KDMatthews Proud Submariner's Wife Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 2,956 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 61%	How do you plan for #2? We had our son before my dh got to his first boat. Now, with their schedule, how do you plan for another one? Actually count out the months and guess that is when you'll get pregnant? My dh missed the birth of our son because I went into labor 3 weeks early, but I was at home with my family then, but now, I'd be 2,000 miles from them. I just don't want to do it alone. __________________

04-30-2006, 08:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
Kaymara Behind every keystroke is a real person Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 27,367 Classifieds: (7) Activity: 39% Longevity: 99%	Its all a guessing game. Unless you can KNOW without a doubt you will conceive a certain month then you can't really predeict it. And no one can know that....I think about the best thing you can do is figure out the time frame. So like we leave here to go back to sea duty in August of 07. Had I of gotten pregnant in April (no peoples we aren't actively trying ) I would of been due in January. May would be february and so on. If I didn't want to move with a new born or pregnant then we'd stop trying once I hit where I would be due in say June. And use protection from then on out. It's a risk. We "planned" E in a sense. We had been trying for over 9years and decided to do the fertility meds when he was fixing to roll to shore duty. It worked. We got pregnant right before leaving sea duty and coming to shore. For us tho, we didn;t really care..We just wanted to get pregnant and having him home was a bonus! __________________ Surviving deployment #5

04-30-2006, 08:35 AM	#3 (permalink)
Caimbrie MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Goose Creek, SC Posts: 40,185 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 75% Longevity: 69%	It was easy for Tony and I because he was transfering to a PCU, so he wouldn't be going to sea. We've been able to have 2 babies since he transfered hehe. __________________

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