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    It's been 5 months since we broke up and I still cannot get him outta my head, it's hard, what can I do?
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    Wanted to give you Getting over someone takes a while sometimes. Maybe pick up a new hobby? I hope you start feeling better soon.
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    If you are still truly struggling 5 months later, it might be time to talk with a professional to see if they can help, and if they can figure out why you are struggling so much.

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    Do you guys still talk? I think the best way to get over someone is ending all ties and connections.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mrsjennyy View Post
    Do you guys still talk? I think the best way to get over someone is ending all ties and connections.
    This. I don't think you can move on if the person is still in your lie during the process. If you really feel like you need to remain friends, then you can reestablish contact after you are healed and fully moved on. Until that happens, every time you see or talk to him, it's just picking off the scab and forcing you to start over again with the healing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mrsjennyy View Post
    Do you guys still talk? I think the best way to get over someone is ending all ties and connections.
    I totally agree with this.
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    I agree with you on this... I did talk to him today and feel better, like a load has been lifted
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    Quote Originally Posted by techguymatt82 View Post
    I agree with you on this... I did talk to him today and feel better, like a load has been lifted
    Actually I think in your predicament that would be counterproductive. If you want to get over this guy and move on you'll probably need to cut ties and NOT talk to him. Give yourself time to move on and then you can explore the possibility of a friendship. (It may or may not work in the friendship arena down the road.)


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    Your right, I do need to give myself time and then friends later on if possible
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    Quote Originally Posted by villanelle View Post
    This. I don't think you can move on if the person is still in your lie during the process. If you really feel like you need to remain friends, then you can reestablish contact after you are healed and fully moved on. Until that happens, every time you see or talk to him, it's just picking off the scab and forcing you to start over again with the healing.
    - I think villanelle hit the nail on the head here.

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