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    Do I tell my partner while his out field?

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    Hi there,

    Really needing some advice here. My DB is currently out field, just doing some regular field time. He has another two weeks. I get to speak to him here and there but not very much....

    Today I found out my uncle, whom I'm very close to has cancer. I don't know what to do, should I tell DB next time I speak to him or should I stick it out and wait? IF DB was deployed I would probably refrain from telling him... but right now I'm not sure what to do

    thanks in advance for your help

    xx
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    unless your uncle has less than 2 weeks to live I would wait to tell him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gunsgirl View Post
    unless your uncle has less than 2 weeks to live I would wait to tell him.
    This is what I would do as well.

    I'm sorry about your uncle.
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    First, I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.

    Secondly, I would wait to tell him unless your uncle has less than 2 weeks to live.

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    I'm sorry about your uncle.

    I would tell him. DH doesn't like it when I pretend everything is fine just because he's not home. And for me it really helps to tell him things that are upsetting me. Just hearing his voice say "I'm sorry" helps.
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    I would just tell him what is upsetting you. It isn't his uncle, so while he will have sympathy for the situation, I doubt it will really effect his work performance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katarianna View Post
    I would just tell him what is upsetting you. It isn't his uncle, so while he will have sympathy for the situation, I doubt it will really effect his work performance.
    Thats what my thoughts are exactly. Thanks
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    I'm not a big fan of waiting to tell DH anything just because he's away. I'd tell him without hesitation. Life doesn't stop because he's gone, so naturally things are going to come up that are less than kosher. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to cope with him being gone during troubling times

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    Quote Originally Posted by maegan View Post
    I'm sorry about your uncle.

    I would tell him. DH doesn't like it when I pretend everything is fine just because he's not home. And for me it really helps to tell him things that are upsetting me. Just hearing his voice say "I'm sorry" helps.


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    I would tell him. I would hate to feel that someone I love withheld information from me just cause I wasn't home! He will still do just fine at work.
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