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    I'm nervous about tonight

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    Before we begin unfortunately I have to give a little back-story for relevance so bear with me. About two years ago my wife gave birth. We had decided very early on in the pregnancy to place the child for adoption since we weren't ready to be parents. The pregnancy was overall terrible, and a lot of medical issues ensued nearly killing her, and then she was induced at roughly 29 weeks I think, I can't remember exactly at this point. Anyways it was challenging because when the issues were discovered in routine lab work (originally overlooked by their technicians due to not reading thoroughly) demanding the inducement we were several hours away in a German hospital for other medical issues being brought on by the prenancy seeing specialists they had none of stationed here at the time at LRMC and it was mayhem getting discharged from that German hospital (they wanted to refuse us and it took us a couple of hours to leave) - now that the mayhem has been framed back to the main topic.

    My wifes unit, particularly her division, was very aware of our choice for the adoption and we're supportive - and when they had finally heard about the crazy shit with the Germans and the emergency inducing way early in the pregnancy some volunteered to help. The biggest supporter we had was her old ATO manager Col. X (not using his real name) (tough to explain really but in charge of the 'product' my wifes division produced for war planning, etc). He and his wife spent the next three days with us at the hospital only going home for a short time to sleep (they lived over an hour away one way too). His wife stayed with mine during labor since I was terrified of the process at this point , stayed the night in the room with her - helped talk to her and so on. He stayed with me, kept me calm, talked about our future, took me out to lunch and dinner every day, all sorts of shit really. This meant a lot to my wife and I, since Col X has two sons and him and his wife hired a baby sitter to spend time with us in the hours during and after the delivery/inducement to make sure we were ok and were going to make it out in one piece - and we never asked them to sacrifice so much for us - they volunteered.

    So now that all of that explaining is out of the way we're finally going out to dinner with them today actually at a German restaurant they've never been to before but we know is good. We've been wanting to eat with them for forever and a year at this point but schedules never worked and now my wife and I were getting frantic since we PCS in like six weeks. The weather is good, and were going to eat at this place's outside area. We have the gifts bought, flowers, the card, clothes set aside ready to go, and I'm fucking nervous that I won't seem appreciative enough. Mainly because I really don't have gift giving skills of any kind and I really fucking suck at making small talk and caring about what anyone says other than my wife and some of my closest friends.

    Not really sure what to say other than "Here you go enjoy the Scotch and flowers and other stuff" - I'm sure there is something better to say.

    What say you MSOS?
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    Just tell them that you can never repay them or thank them enough for what they did for you and your wife during one of your darkest times. And leave it at that.

    As for small talk, ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Ask about their kids and feign, if necessary, interest in the answers. See where they've traveled in the area around where you are stationed and talk about any of those you have in common.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LynnAFWife View Post
    Just tell them that you can never repay them or thank them enough for what they did for you and your wife during one of your darkest times. And leave it at that.

    As for small talk, ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Ask about their kids and feign, if necessary, interest in the answers. See where they've traveled in the area around where you are stationed and talk about any of those you have in common.
    ^this I totally agree. They seem like wonderful people, they don't seem like the type that would expect you to grovel at their feet. Try not to overthink it too much. Usually situations like this are easier than you expect them to be Good Luck! Let us know how it goes!

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    Don't grovel, don't keep bringing it up with them. Treat them like the good freinds they seem like they are. Don't drink too much, and johnny blue is always a great gift.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Guynavywife View Post
    Don't grovel, don't keep bringing it up with them. Treat them like the good freinds they seem like they are. Don't drink too much, and johnny blue is always a great gift.
    How in the world did you know?
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    Quote Originally Posted by WarSnoopy View Post
    How in the world did you know?
    You mentioned scotch, and i know you have good taste.
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    Asher knows his liquor.

    I wouldnt make a big to do over the gifts. Just simply hand them over and say "thank you again for everything you've done for us. We are lucky to have had your support and kindness."




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    Johnny Blue is great if you enjoy blended! Very good gift.

    And good tip about not drinking too much with dinner, especially if you feel a little uncomfortable or antsy to begin with.

    Is your wife good with small talk? Can she help lead it?
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    My wife is inbound from work here soon, just shaved with my good oils and lotion/shaving craem, hair is freshly cut, shoes shined, mustache trimmed, good cologne, I think im ready to do this, cleaned up my dressy glasses, I leave in like 20-30 minutes.

    I hope Im ready, been wanting to do this for over a year
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    Try not to be nervous. At the end of the day, when good people do good things, it's not because they expect anything in return. They were there when you needed them the most, and what you're giving them tonight is certainly more than they already expect. Like someone else above posted, just tell them that you could never repay them for what they did.
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