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    DHs sister, mother and aunt seem to be close to his one ex 'S' and I absolutely HATE. Like to close to her to be comfortable with it. She tried to break DH and i up multiple times but i put a end to that and she is just honestly freakin crazy!

    When DH & I got together we decided to tell each other everything about past relationships. He told me that 'S' practically raped him before he even registered wth was happening and she ended up pregnant. 'S' miscarried which is of course horrible but I couldn't help but feel relieved when he told me. She also bought herself a ring that looked like a engagement ring and was saying they were engaged when he in reality broke up with her.

    My MIL always hangs out with her which is just weird. When my MIL was here in Cali visiting she felt the need to tell DH that 'S' is getting married like it really mattered. He said he could care less that he can't stand her. His mother legitimately got mad. And my SIL is now all of a sudden calling 'S' her sister? When i move back to Ohio for this deployment I'll be living with my MIL and i do NOT want 'S' any where near my daughter. I don't know if i am just being stupid about it but its just awkward that they are so close to her. It's like if my family were close to an ex of mine and always saying things about him. Should i just let it go? Or what...?
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    I would suggest you let it go and understand that if you are moving there, that there may be a strong possibility that you will have to see this ex. If you don't like that, then don't live there. You can not control who, when, and where your mil and sil see her or talk about her.


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    Has your husband told his family that he is uncomfortable with their relationship? This seems like something he should deal with as it's his family.
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    I might be rethinking the move there. If they are so friendly with the ex, even after your Dh told them he doesn't care for her anymore...well you cN't dictate who they have contact with.
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    I might be rethinking the move there. If they are so friendly with the ex, even after your Dh told them he doesn't care for her anymore...well you cN't dictate who they have contact with.
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    If the situation was that uncomfortable from a distance I would not move and be living in their home where they have the right to have whomever they want there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jayo View Post
    I might be rethinking the move there. If they are so friendly with the ex, even after your Dh told them he doesn't care for her anymore...well you cN't dictate who they have contact with.
    I'm in this camp. I'd stay put and take care of myself rather than have to deal with that.





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    Quote Originally Posted by Jayo View Post
    I might be rethinking the move there. If they are so friendly with the ex, even after your Dh told them he doesn't care for her anymore...well you cN't dictate who they have contact with.
    Exactly.
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    I would let it go. You're DH doesn't have anything to do with her but you can't control his family, unfortunately. Sorry you have to deal with that though.
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    No way would I would move in with them. Not only for the possibility you would see S but the factor seems too significant.
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