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    Question Accepting a present from an ex

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    So I just got a text from my ex saying he wants me to give him my address so he can mail me a gift. I'm not sure what to do.
    Some facts:
    It's my birthday soon, so I am assuming it's a b-day present
    My ex and I are on friendly terms but we don't hang out or talk on the phone or anything like that. I haven't given him anything since we broke up.
    He says its nothing special and it's small and I can throw it away if I don't like it.
    DF knows I occasionally talk to my ex, and doesn't care. I'm not sure how he'd feel about accepting a gift.

    Right now I kind of feel like I should just tell him my address because I am curious and I CAN always just throw it away.
    What do you all think?
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    How long have you two been broken up and how long did you date? Was it a serious thing?

    I think I'd ask your DF what he thought about the situation before you give him your address. I always try to look on the flip side of things, and I'm not sure I would be ok with DH getting a gift (no matter how small) from an ex-girlfriend of his.
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    I wouldn't accept it. Personally, I think that it is just asking for trouble.
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    I don't know. It seems like a nice gesture but sounds like it could introduce complications. I personally wouldn't accept it.
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    I wouldn't accept it. Like the others have said it can open the door to trouble.
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    Since y'all don't talk often or anything like that, I wouldn't accept it.

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    I don't think I would accept it. If I was in a relationship with somebody and they got a gift from an ex, I would be insanely jealous and livid. Irrational yes, but sometimes feelings don't make sense.
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    If it were me, I would tell DH and wouldn't accept it, unless he told me to. Sometimes DH's curiosity is worse then my own lol
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    Sounds like trouble.
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    Quote Originally Posted by missinghim View Post
    How long have you two been broken up and how long did you date? Was it a serious thing?

    I think I'd ask your DF what he thought about the situation before you give him your address. I always try to look on the flip side of things, and I'm not sure I would be ok with DH getting a gift (no matter how small) from an ex-girlfriend of his.
    We've been broken up 2.5 years.We were together over 6 years. Things ended pretty badly but we became friendly because of mutual-friends after a bit of bitterness. We haven't actually seen each other since we broke up but he did watch my cats for me for a while when I was away visiting DF once.
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