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    Preparing for bad news...

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    I was informed today from my future mother in law that my DFs grandmother has been put on hospice and doesn't have much longer.

    The DF has been stressed lately and doesn't yet know about her grandmother. DFs mom has informed me she doesn't know how to go about telling her and even thought about not telling her because she is worried that it might depress her.

    I talk to the DF more than she does her family.

    I'm wondering if I should break the news to her and then let her get the details from her mom or just let her mom tell her everything.
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    I would offer her mother the option of your involvement, but I think ultimately it is important for your DF's mother to decide how your DF gets the news. My DB's mother did something similar with me recently and I offered, but was glad that she ultimately chose not to put me in that position. Even if you talk to your DF more than her family does, your telling her might leave her wondering why her mother didn't.
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    I would stay out of it...
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    Yea I'm going to, but the thing is I think she'll get the hint that something is up cause she doesn't call her mom often, but she calls me once a day at least. So I'm gonna have to tell her she needs to call her mom...that will definitely throw up a red flag :-/ kinda a lose lose situation for me.
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    Is her mother unable to call her?
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    I would let mom decide. I would encourage DF to talk to mom.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Er-my-knee View Post
    Is her mother unable to call her?
    None of us are able to call her she can only call us. She's in Afghanistan.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fdnybound View Post
    None of us are able to call her she can only call us. She's in Afghanistan.
    That's so frustrating. I have the same issue with DB in Japan and he definitely knew something was up when I told him to call his mother, but that's all you can do. Good luck!

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