Serious Question

[*Annie*]

for those of you who have had dh deployed.....

as many know Ryan (dh) has been back from Iraq for about 6 months now. He is still at Ft Hood due to medical stuff. Anyway, we have had TONS of problems in our marriage since his return. He shows no affection *aside from sex*, never says he loves me like he did, rude, hateful, he is just different. Anyway, the other night we sat down and had a serious discussion. He said since he came back he just no longer loves me. He said he dont hate me, he cares for me, but he dont love me He said I havent done anything wrong and he dont want anyone else, he just dont love me.....idk what to think....have you ever heard of this? i dont understand

We are still together and we are trying to reconnect. We dont want a divorce. I just dont know what to feel

[Germanchick]

to you I have no advice but I hope someone here can help you

[reynswife]

Originally Posted by germanchick to you I have no advice but I hope someone here can help you

what she said.

[Jekka]

[*Realized*]

I dont have a clue but I wish you the best!

[navyaowife2005]

I just want to say I hope it all works out for you guys.

[chelsea<3josh]

i too have no help but i wanted to offer you and

it sounds like you guys are taking the right step...talking about it, maybe you can go to some counseling so you can get some help and advice on how to reconnect, it sounds like he wants to try, and perhaps his feelings are just numb and different since he got back from iraq. that would be so difficult to hear, but suggest getting some help together so you can work thru it together see what he says?

[MontanaSweetie]

Wow hun, that would be such a hard thing to hear. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I do find it off that he decided this when he got back from deployment...how did he act during the deployment? Did he go to Iraq? I know typically there is an adjustment period for both people after a deployment, but not something as severe as this.

I certainly hope ya'll are able to re-connect and he will realize that he does love you and wants to do everything to make the marriage work.

Best of luck to you sweetie!

[googlegirl]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that! He may be depressed- especially if he's at Ft Hood for medical stuff. I don't think it's right for him to be rude and hateful towards you, though-- if he doesn't want to get divorced- very good sign that there's still hope for ya'lls future- then maybe you can do counseling- but hopefully he'll make some kind of effort

[footstepswife]

:bighugs I think you are the doing the right thing with taking one step at a time and trying to reconnect. How do you feel about him? Jus wondering