thinking he has ptsd!

[littlefaery_86]

AFter last night, I truly think my df has pretty bad ptsd! I dont really want to go into details on this site, but if anyone has any advice, or could help me, out please pm me. I coudl use some help. I am pretty much clueless, you think I would know more, bc I have ptsd from some of my traumas, but I think this is a whole different aspect of ptsd I have never dealt with.

[Am]

Suggest that he talks to someone.

[RNAshley]

Sorry I don't really have a lot of advice.
After my cousin came back (injured) from Iraq he had serious PTSD issues. His wife got him in counseling as soon as possible for his safety more than anything.

Is there a counseling service on base he could talk to?

[Germanchick]

OM me if you need someone to talk

[Traci08]

I can help. Currently going through it myself with my husband.

[louisa85]

I agree with what the others said: if you can, at all, get him to talk to someone.

[Ducky]

you can "Think" or you can get it verified. He needs to be clinically diagnosed with PTSD for you to really say he has it, he needs to see a counselor.

[Patience]

Read about PTSD. There are quite a few articles explaining it in non-professional terms on my website, www.patiencepress.com.
My husband came back from Vietnam with it in 1966 when it was not supposed to exist and did not have a name. So I thought his problems were because I was a bad wife, and he agreed! What did we know?
The advice to get him diagnosed and in therapy is good, but in the military today there is a strong pressure NOT to diagnose PTSD, to give people personality disorder diagnoses (a pre-existing condition, so you get no VA benefits) and toss them, so if a military psychiatrist says it is not PTSD, and you think it is, fight it.
You can also check the NCPTSD.gov website for articles on PTSD. There is lots of help if you can find it, but there is also a lot of bs. And people need different things to heal. One needs to talk, and one needs to practice sitting still with painful feelings, and one needs to learn to speak up without blowing up...
No easy cures. Hope this helps.
It is not your fault. You didn't cause it, can't control it, and can't cure it. That is his job.
Take care of yourself so you are not totally dependent on someone with PTSD for your emotional support and give him space to find his own solutions.

[momrisner]

He probably should see someone, the trouble is, most men do NOT want to ask for help, especially in that aspect. Going through it myself with my dh as well.