Pre-Deployment Jitters - PTSD

Helaina · 10-04-2009, 06:20 PM

Hello all, first off a little background info. When DB and I first met, he had a substance abuse problem, after a year of trying to quit, he joined the military. He has finally been clean, and hes great, and our lives are going in the right direction. Cue, undescribable happiness.

Only thing is, he is leaving for his first deployment in Jan and I am afraid that once he gets back he will have PTSD, and eventually revert back to the drugs. I am really worried, and I know every one handles the stress differently, I am just worried that he has this weakness, and is he strong enough to fight it when he comes back. What can I look for? I don't knwo if this is the right place to post, but I'm just scared for hm and for us.

I don't know if anyone was/is in a similar situation, but any advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advance.

BJo · 10-04-2009, 06:35 PM

Well, i guess you won't really know until he comes back. Everyone deals with combat differently.

nana_bear15 · 10-14-2009, 12:01 AM

I wouldn't bring it up to DB. Just because he is deploying doesn't mean he will have PTSD. Everyone is different and everyone is affected differently. Just focus on the two of you being "extremely happy".

aFutureWeiler · 10-14-2009, 12:10 AM

Hi sweetie. I don't know if I can help you much, but I can try. Now, I dont know what kind of substance youre talking about, and I am in no position to need to know. I just hope that I can help at least a little bit. I know weed is the very least of most things, but I have a similar situation (I think).

I am guessing I probably wont help much. Lol. But if you need someone to talk to, dont hesitate to PM me.

sconk · 10-15-2009, 03:53 PM

Helaina not to be picky or sound rude but I think your ticker should be changed. You can't count down to the day he leaves because that gives an exact date. This violates OPSEC, just some advice.

jgueits · Today, 04:02 AM

I worry about the same thing :-/
My boyfriend has terrible nightmares all the time. He and I are ridiculously happy as well, but I'm worried something is gonna trigger a switch in him and he's going to come back changed for the worst.

The only thing I know I can do to help him is to try and keep his mind at home when he's not on the field. I intend to talk to him about the mundane details of my life and ask his opinion...just keep him involved. A lot of the women are posting advice about this under "first deployment" threads.

10-04-2009, 06:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Helaina Missing my Gunner's Mate Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Valley Stream, NY but my love is in Portsmouth, VA Posts: 17 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 4%	Pre-Deployment Jitters Hello all, first off a little background info. When DB and I first met, he had a substance abuse problem, after a year of trying to quit, he joined the military. He has finally been clean, and hes great, and our lives are going in the right direction. Cue, undescribable happiness. Only thing is, he is leaving for his first deployment in Jan and I am afraid that once he gets back he will have PTSD, and eventually revert back to the drugs. I am really worried, and I know every one handles the stress differently, I am just worried that he has this weakness, and is he strong enough to fight it when he comes back. What can I look for? I don't knwo if this is the right place to post, but I'm just scared for hm and for us. I don't know if anyone was/is in a similar situation, but any advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advance. __________________ I'm here without you baby But you're still on my lonely mind I think about you baby And I dream about you all the time-3 Doors Down "Here Without You"

10-14-2009, 12:01 AM	#3 (permalink)
nana_bear15 What? I'm just a Sassy Southern Bell! Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: back in baby's arms in Jacksonville, NC Posts: 2,339 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 30%	I wouldn't bring it up to DB. Just because he is deploying doesn't mean he will have PTSD. Everyone is different and everyone is affected differently. Just focus on the two of you being "extremely happy". __________________

10-14-2009, 12:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
aFutureWeiler Just call me Andie Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California/ Ft. Drum, NY Posts: 196 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 8% Longevity: 2%	Hi sweetie. I don't know if I can help you much, but I can try. Now, I dont know what kind of substance youre talking about, and I am in no position to need to know. I just hope that I can help at least a little bit. I know weed is the very least of most things, but I have a similar situation (I think). I am guessing I probably wont help much. Lol. But if you need someone to talk to, dont hesitate to PM me. __________________

10-15-2009, 03:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
sconk engaged to my hero Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Cherry Point Posts: 942 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 79% Longevity: 16%	Helaina not to be picky or sound rude but I think your ticker should be changed. You can't count down to the day he leaves because that gives an exact date. This violates OPSEC, just some advice. __________________

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10-04-2009, 06:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	Well, i guess you won't really know until he comes back. Everyone deals with combat differently.

Today, 04:02 AM	#6 (permalink)
jgueits Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Miami Posts: 7 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 1%	I worry about the same thing :-/ My boyfriend has terrible nightmares all the time. He and I are ridiculously happy as well, but I'm worried something is gonna trigger a switch in him and he's going to come back changed for the worst. The only thing I know I can do to help him is to try and keep his mind at home when he's not on the field. I intend to talk to him about the mundane details of my life and ask his opinion...just keep him involved. A lot of the women are posting advice about this under "first deployment" threads.