deployment question - PTSD

10-02-2006, 06:54 PM

People always say that when soldiers get back from deployments the have "changed" they arent the same man as they were when they left.

Do you think thats true? Has your SO changed a lot since deployment? Like mentally?

10-02-2006, 06:56 PM

I think it depends ...My husband was the same as before ...but I am sure everyone is different ...My husband is deployed 9 months out of the yr . every yr. so I guess he has gotton used to it

SIMMYBABEZ · 10-02-2006, 07:07 PM

I think their mind changes to adapt the circumstances. It has to. So when they come back it takes a little time for them to adjust again. I remember dh came back from his last deployment and he would jump at loud noises- or duck. He was real touchy. He ended up being back to himself. But im sure he will go through the same thing this year too.

Purplekittie · 10-02-2006, 07:09 PM

hmm. well mine hasnt been deployed yet but just being in the navy has changed him drastically

iLuvKev · 10-02-2006, 07:13 PM

ok, my one sisters husband just took time to adjust and hten he was back to his old self....but....and i don't want to scare you b/c this is just once and its not everyone but my other sister's husband came back and started drinking and he NEVER drank before, he also had a hard time sleeping and now took up a night job, and is seeing a counselor. but once again THIS IS NOT EVERYONE! i hear most guys are fine, but just make sure you are paciant and understanding. good luck

Veronica · 10-02-2006, 07:25 PM

my dh was a little different when he got back from deployment...but about a month later he was his old self again!

Purplekittie · 10-02-2006, 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by honeysuhkle

We no longer have 2-3 hour phone conversations every night, so in a lot of ways, he more reserved.

just being in the navy did that to Pete. i dont like it much

April · 10-02-2006, 08:29 PM

I think it depends a lot on the person and the specific deployment. My dh hasnt had to do anything on deployment but fix planes in a remote area. I'm sure the Marine on the ground in Iraq would be much more changed than my dh.

10-02-2006, 08:34 PM

This is the first time that i have gone through a deployment with Jon but from what he has told me and from what his parents have told me... it changed him a lot. I know that dh still has PTSD w/o a doubt. He was very depressed when he got home and he medicates by drinking. I have seen him change for the better since we have been together but he still needed to make a lot of progress. For instance, he finally stoppped having to sleep with his gun on the end table. Im worried about when he gets home this time b/c he never got the help he needed last time.

10-02-2006, 09:01 PM

Im just concerned about it. DF has a really good head on his shoulders, he is preparing himself the best he can, but all these guys from the unit he got put in, keep telling him all the horrer stories about being in Iraq. And sometimes I wonder if they tell him because they want him to be prepared, or they are doing to try and get under his skin.

I know in some ways he will change, because being in the military in general he has changed. HIs personality is still the same, he is still my timmay. But Im just worried it will depress him, and he will try and drink. But I know if I am there, which I will be. I dont allow him to drink so much.

I just dont want him coming back and being a completly different person.

10-02-2006, 06:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
Armylove Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	deployment question People always say that when soldiers get back from deployments the have "changed" they arent the same man as they were when they left. Do you think thats true? Has your SO changed a lot since deployment? Like mentally?

10-02-2006, 07:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
SIMMYBABEZ MIA for awhile... Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: ME = Gold Coast Dh = Sandpit from hell Posts: 17,878 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 58%	I think their mind changes to adapt the circumstances. It has to. So when they come back it takes a little time for them to adjust again. I remember dh came back from his last deployment and he would jump at loud noises- or duck. He was real touchy. He ended up being back to himself. But im sure he will go through the same thing this year too. __________________ Blame your man, not Myspace!! © Simmy 2009. All rights reserved, copy it and you die. Bite me! PLEASE! I want to be a vampire

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Purplekittie Jenni & Corey Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Plano, TX Posts: 12,499 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 40% Longevity: 68%	hmm. well mine hasnt been deployed yet but just being in the navy has changed him drastically __________________ Gravity cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. ....Albert Einstein

10-02-2006, 07:13 PM	#5 (permalink)
iLuvKev Angelina, but call me Angie! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: where his heart is Posts: 2,682 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 14% Longevity: 58%	ok, my one sisters husband just took time to adjust and hten he was back to his old self....but....and i don't want to scare you b/c this is just once and its not everyone but my other sister's husband came back and started drinking and he NEVER drank before, he also had a hard time sleeping and now took up a night job, and is seeing a counselor. but once again THIS IS NOT EVERYONE! i hear most guys are fine, but just make sure you are paciant and understanding. good luck __________________

10-02-2006, 07:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
Veronica Single and Lovin' it! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 6,003 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 58%	my dh was a little different when he got back from deployment...but about a month later he was his old self again! __________________ We wont buy, while cats and dogs die. Save a life...get a shelter animal. YUM...

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10-02-2006, 06:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
SFWIFE Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	I think it depends ...My husband was the same as before ...but I am sure everyone is different ...My husband is deployed 9 months out of the yr . every yr. so I guess he has gotton used to it

10-02-2006, 08:29 PM	#8 (permalink)
April It's YOUR choice Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: HOME IN TEXAS!!!!! Posts: 7,957 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 0% Longevity: 98%	I think it depends a lot on the person and the specific deployment. My dh hasnt had to do anything on deployment but fix planes in a remote area. I'm sure the Marine on the ground in Iraq would be much more changed than my dh. __________________ Freedom and Liberty require Service and Sacrifice

10-02-2006, 08:34 PM	#9 (permalink)
LaurenOC Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	This is the first time that i have gone through a deployment with Jon but from what he has told me and from what his parents have told me... it changed him a lot. I know that dh still has PTSD w/o a doubt. He was very depressed when he got home and he medicates by drinking. I have seen him change for the better since we have been together but he still needed to make a lot of progress. For instance, he finally stoppped having to sleep with his gun on the end table. Im worried about when he gets home this time b/c he never got the help he needed last time.

10-02-2006, 09:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
Armylove Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	Im just concerned about it. DF has a really good head on his shoulders, he is preparing himself the best he can, but all these guys from the unit he got put in, keep telling him all the horrer stories about being in Iraq. And sometimes I wonder if they tell him because they want him to be prepared, or they are doing to try and get under his skin. I know in some ways he will change, because being in the military in general he has changed. HIs personality is still the same, he is still my timmay. But Im just worried it will depress him, and he will try and drink. But I know if I am there, which I will be. I dont allow him to drink so much. I just dont want him coming back and being a completly different person.