I'm over it.

[Britt]

DJ and I have been talking, and we don't like what we see, and we don't want to be sucked into it any longer.

We are not ignorant in the fact that he does have PTSD, and it does impact our lives on a sometimes-daily basis, but we really don't want it to any longer.

We're dropping everything. The support groups, the veterans' groups, everything. He's done with veterans. (For now.) He doesn't like how many he sees who wear their disabilities like a badge of honor. He doesn't like how many he sees who use it to get a head. He doesn't like how many he sees who believe they are the epitome of PTSD.

He'll continue his medications, for they are working. He'll continue his one on one therapy session with his favorite counselor, because this man is amazing. And we're going to work at it together.

I don't even know how much of it I'm going to post anymore. I think I may take Laurie's graceful approach. I'm not saying I'll instantly be sunshine and roses. But I'm tired of this black fog consuming my life. So is DJ.

We're done with PTSD. We know realistically it's not as easy as this. But it doesn't have to consume our every waking moment. Our lives do not have to revolve around support groups, therapist appointments, and get togethers.

This will be something we can adjust to. This will be something we will educate our children about. This is not the end of my husband.

We are young. We love each other. We are solid. We are going to move past this. Our future is there, waiting.

[jennypage]

That's amazing! I think thats a great idea and I hope that it works for you guys.

[Britt]

Oh, and he's obviously still going into the SIPU (PTSD) program on July 22, and that is to have his sleeping medications worked on again.

Thanks JP!

I told DJ earlier what I'd been thinking, and he looked at me like, "Finally!" He confessed that he was doing most of the groups and what nots because he thought I wanted him to.

Communication ... still a work in progress.

[Traci08]

Hugs to you for starting this new journey in life. I think its wonderful that you two have talked this over and that you both feel comfortable with it in your life now. Its so wonderful that he feels that he can do this. Of course its not going to be all sunshine and roses. But this is a great outlook for the healing in the both of you!

[*MarineBug*]

That is amazing!

[Britt]

Is now a bad time to mention the meltdown he had in the car today because someone wouldn't let him back out? My poor husband.

I'm pretty sure God has a funny sense of humor. Who else would eff with a person like that?

[Traci08]

Gosh, I'm right there with you on the meltdowns! I wish I knew your secret. Its hard for me to take on my husbands meltdowns. I usually end up crying. I let him have them, but its really hard to see it happen. My husband was never an angry person before going off to war. And now, everyone just pisses him off.

[StarryEyes]

I wish you and DJ much luck, and i hope things will get better for you both from here

[Songtan Sally]

Originally Posted by Britt DJ and I have been talking, and we don't like what we see, and we don't want to be sucked into it any longer. We are not ignorant in the fact that he does have PTSD, and it does impact our lives on a sometimes-daily basis, but we really don't want it to any longer. We're dropping everything. The support groups, the veterans' groups, everything. He's done with veterans. (For now.) He doesn't like how many he sees who wear their disabilities like a badge of honor. He doesn't like how many he sees who use it to get a head. He doesn't like how many he sees who believe they are the epitome of PTSD. He'll continue his medications, for they are working. He'll continue his one on one therapy session with his favorite counselor, because this man is amazing. And we're going to work at it together. I don't even know how much of it I'm going to post anymore. I think I may take Laurie's graceful approach. I'm not saying I'll instantly be sunshine and roses. But I'm tired of this black fog consuming my life. So is DJ. We're done with PTSD. We know realistically it's not as easy as this. But it doesn't have to consume our every waking moment. Our lives do not have to revolve around support groups, therapist appointments, and get togethers. This will be something we can adjust to. This will be something we will educate our children about. This is not the end of my husband. We are young. We love each other. We are solid. We are going to move past this. Our future is there, waiting.

Kudos to you and your husband!! I think the two of you have the right attitude.

No matter what any one suffers in their life, there is always the choice to control your disease or let your disease control you. It's not a matter of denial, it's a matter of strength.

Instead of focusing on what you can't do, focus on what you can. I think it was Christopher Reeves who said this, and I'm paraphrasing, but when someone asked him about how he felt about not being able to walk he said something like "Before the accident there were a million things I could do. Now there are 900,000 things I can do. It's not a matter of what I can't do, but what I can."

[JudyB]

That is so awesome Britt!! I am so happy for you both!
Enjoy this new journey you guys are taking.......and remember, for every bad day there are a always much more good days to follow