The incident. - PTSD

Traci08 · 07-01-2009, 08:47 PM

Okay, so I was invited to a party last month to celebrate Memorial Day/ My husband was invited as well. His parents had Dietrich spend the night so I could go. He had been texting me all morning, the day of the party (he never does this) so you can imagine the cloud I was on.

He said if you get here early enough, we can just go to the party together. I was stoked! Anyway, it was later in the evening and I started coughing. I couldn't stop. I wasn't chocking, just had a coughing fit. He immediately snapped at me and it was apparently annoying him, that he yelled and told me to stop! I was like wow! I am pretty sure that me coughing triggered him. I just couldn't believe how mad and annoyed he was.

hisgirl7477 · 07-02-2009, 02:21 AM

I'm wondering if Duane's reaction isn't because he can't handle that he couldn't help his fellow brothers, he carries the guilt in his heart all the time. Then he sees you in need and there's nothing he can do - so he's triggered?? But all the same... this is a situation where I'd use the "explination not excuse" rule. Have you asked him why since??

Traci08 · 07-02-2009, 09:12 AM

I haven't asked him. I did talk to a few others who have PTSD due to war, they all said the exact same thing. A lot of the soldiers there, cough a lot.

Patience · 07-04-2009, 09:00 AM

We never know what is a trigger!

07-01-2009, 08:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
Traci08 Not all war wounds are visible. Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 589 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 6% Longevity: 21%	The incident. Okay, so I was invited to a party last month to celebrate Memorial Day/ My husband was invited as well. His parents had Dietrich spend the night so I could go. He had been texting me all morning, the day of the party (he never does this) so you can imagine the cloud I was on. He said if you get here early enough, we can just go to the party together. I was stoked! Anyway, it was later in the evening and I started coughing. I couldn't stop. I wasn't chocking, just had a coughing fit. He immediately snapped at me and it was apparently annoying him, that he yelled and told me to stop! I was like wow! I am pretty sure that me coughing triggered him. I just couldn't believe how mad and annoyed he was. __________________ We were married under the waterfalls behind the Flamingo in Las Vegas, January 14, 2005.

07-02-2009, 09:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
Traci08 Not all war wounds are visible. Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 589 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 6% Longevity: 21%	I haven't asked him. I did talk to a few others who have PTSD due to war, they all said the exact same thing. A lot of the soldiers there, cough a lot. __________________ We were married under the waterfalls behind the Flamingo in Las Vegas, January 14, 2005.

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07-02-2009, 02:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
hisgirl7477 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 426 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 21%	I'm wondering if Duane's reaction isn't because he can't handle that he couldn't help his fellow brothers, he carries the guilt in his heart all the time. Then he sees you in need and there's nothing he can do - so he's triggered?? But all the same... this is a situation where I'd use the "explination not excuse" rule. Have you asked him why since??

07-04-2009, 09:00 AM	#4 (permalink)
Patience Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 27 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 4% Longevity: 7%	We never know what is a trigger!