He's finally admitting that something's not right

[Brittany Rashel]

As many of you know, my DH and I have been having problems. He's been distant, mean, and all he ever seems to want to do is drink which makes the previous two problems even worse. It wasn't so bad as soon as he got back but it just keeps getting worse and worse. All he cares about anymore is drinking so hopefully he can get the right help since he's finally admitting that he thinks he might have PTSD. I just want my husband back . He's not the man I married right now and it makes me really sad.

[GunnyWintersGirl]

My advice to you is to resolve this quickly before the baby comes. I grew up in a household with a verbally abusive, alcoholic father and I can tell you first hand it is nothing to take lightly. I remember vividly all the fights, the way he disrespected my mother etc. and I always said I would never end up with someone who drank and you know what happened...I ended up falling for a guy that was also verbally abusive and drank, had a child with him and the breaking point for me was when she was 3 and walked in the room on us fighting and him hitting me, when I heard her say "Daddy your hurting Mommy" I stopped dead in my tracks and said "ENOUGH" I got out and we are much better off. She has a better relationship with her dad and we get along better apart.

I'm not saying your man is this bad or will get this bad, I'm just saying our decisions may not always be the best for the childs who are innocent, stuck in the middle. You need to get him help now and get things under control before the baby, please.

[Brittany Rashel]

I agree, that's why it's SOO important to me that he gets help before our baby's born.

[GunnyWintersGirl]

Originally Posted by Brittany Rashel I agree, that's why it's SOO important to me that he gets help before our baby's born.

My heart goes out to you because I know how hard a situation it can be with a child in the middle. My advice to you is to be supportive like you have been and continue to try to help him see reason, keep mentioning the baby and how important it is for his child to admire him as a good father etc.

Ultimately though you have to start preparing yourself mentally and physically, financially all those things in case you end up having to end things. I mean let's face it you are that babies first line of protection and nurture. You gotta do what's best for you and that baby, loving him or not...so with that being said just hope for the best but start preparing yourself for the worst.

I'm a single mom now. I was on my own totally for 2 yrs after we split before I met my boyfriend I have now. It's real hard I ain't going to lie to you but honey in some situations it's better and much healthier for you and the child.

If you wanna talk sometime I have yahoo messenger, my screen name is:
haileysmommy_4_life.

I'll have you and the baby in my thoughts.

[leiawen]

Admitting something is wrong is the hardest step.
to you that you will both get through this, and that he will heal.

[Missin_Him]

Originally Posted by leiawen Admitting something is wrong is the hardest step. to you that you will both get through this, and that he will heal.

[Carlye<3Sailor]

.. Im very happy for you that he has admitted a problem and I hope you guys work through this together.. for him, for you, for your marriage, and for that sweet little baby!!!

[BJo]

I agree with the other ladies. He needs to seek help before your baby comes. Think about how you feel now and add a baby into that equation.

[mxngurl956]

Originally Posted by Brittany Rashel As many of you know, my DH and I have been having problems. He's been distant, mean, and all he ever seems to want to do is drink which makes the previous two problems even worse. It wasn't so bad as soon as he got back but it just keeps getting worse and worse. All he cares about anymore is drinking so hopefully he can get the right help since he's finally admitting that he thinks he might have PTSD. I just want my husband back . He's not the man I married right now and it makes me really sad.

I'm sorry you are having trouble. I guess I'm not in the many that knew that you are having trouble with DH. I hope he or both of you get the help that is needed.

[mareleigh]

My husband has PTSD pretty bad from his previous two tours and I can only imagine what this one may be like, However, he was able just like your DH to admit that there was a problem and began to see someone about it. When he was done with his 8 sessions, we both went for another 6 sessions and I was able to learn about it and how to avoid outbreaks, and if he did have a "black out" how to handle the situation. We saw someone off post and that helped a lot because he did not feel the pressure from the military to go. Not only has he learned how to handle it better, so have I and we have much better communication now!!! Good Luck!