PLEASE HELP!!!!! I'm terrified..... - PTSD

ProudOfMySoldier · 01-31-2008, 07:18 PM

Ladies, I don't know where else to go...but I need you ladies!

My husband is in predeployment training for his second tour to iraq but today he went to a psych. evaluation and they diagnosed him with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I recently learned that he's been having "problems" for awhile and it got worse when he started gearing up to go again. THey're sending him to either Fort Knox or Fort Riley for help....I'M TERRIFIED!!! I can't believe this is happening to me...I'm soo scared for him.

He's going to be up there all alone and going through counseling. I don't know what to think or do at this point....I was stupid early and yelled at him about all of this.

I know that was the worst thing I could do but HELP!

HollySunshine · 01-31-2008, 07:24 PM

aww

i hope you the best of luck, be as supportive as you can! Maybe make him something to cheer him up.

OneRed911 · 01-31-2008, 07:25 PM

It's great that they diagnosed him now and he's getting help!

I don't really know what else to say other than the counseling should help a lot and I'm sure he'll forgive you for yelling at him. This is a good thing for him and it's okay to be scared for him.

KateTheGreat · 02-01-2008, 12:00 AM

this is a positive step! It's also a scary one.
You will be JUST FINE. and it's GREAT that he's getting help!

maybe a good thing for you is on my army life too, the battle mind program is a training program for so's who have soldiers with PTSD.
also, there's a thread in here somewhere where i posted resources.

good luck and we're here for oyu.

kate

jen-marie · 02-01-2008, 12:02 AM

it can only get better

tinsygrl · 02-01-2008, 12:07 AM

~~Kaiden'sMomma~~ · 02-01-2008, 02:32 PM

Don't beat yourself up! You were taken by surprise and frustrated. I'm sure he's not mad at you for yelling.
He'll be alright.

BJo · 02-02-2008, 12:23 AM

Thank god they diagnosed him. That really is a blessing in disguise. I'm sure you feel incredibly overhwhelmed but try your hardest to be as supportive and understanding as you can be. I wish you nothing but the best!

soldier@home · 02-03-2008, 06:12 PM

I have been though two deployments myself and I have been diagnosed with all of the same things. Deployments change you and some people are able to push their feelings aside and move on. Maybe that's what your husband did and once he was back in training it reminded him of whatever he experienced. I have seen and been through things that I don't like to discuss. The only people I confided in was a counselor and psychologist. And it helped to talk, along with medications. I hope this works for your husband, but everyone is different. The best thing for me was having my loved ones understand that I'm not the same person I was before my deployments. My advice to you is just be supportive and let him know that you are there if he wants to talk, but don't pry it will make things worst. Don't worry too much. And be strong for him. There are a lot of veterans with these same problems. If you have any other questions or need to talk I'm here.

kshep · 02-03-2008, 07:04 PM

I first met my husband after his first deployment. I thought that some of the thinngs he did was just his way. Things changed over time and some of the habbits he had (like how he slept at night, the nightmares the jumpieness) seemed to go away. Well about a month before he deployed some of those old habbits came back. I believe it was his way of getting ready to go back there.I don't care what anyones says anyone who has been deployed has some type of PTSD you just have to be supportive and get educated about it. Good luck.

01-31-2008, 07:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
ProudOfMySoldier Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,151 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 4% Longevity: 32%	PLEASE HELP!!!!! I'm terrified..... Ladies, I don't know where else to go...but I need you ladies! My husband is in predeployment training for his second tour to iraq but today he went to a psych. evaluation and they diagnosed him with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I recently learned that he's been having "problems" for awhile and it got worse when he started gearing up to go again. THey're sending him to either Fort Knox or Fort Riley for help....I'M TERRIFIED!!! I can't believe this is happening to me...I'm soo scared for him. He's going to be up there all alone and going through counseling. I don't know what to think or do at this point....I was stupid early and yelled at him about all of this. I know that was the worst thing I could do but HELP!

01-31-2008, 07:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
HollySunshine Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: OREGON Posts: 2,497 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 54%	aww i hope you the best of luck, be as supportive as you can! Maybe make him something to cheer him up. __________________ No Longer a Military significant other but here to party! Thank you Brentscrystal!!! OH YES I'VE BEEN BOO'D!!!

01-31-2008, 07:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
OneRed911 A Pretty Poison Flower...bringing you the sweetest juice. Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Me: Norfolk Him: Norfolk now, Afghanistan soon. Posts: 3,787 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 30% Longevity: 31%	It's great that they diagnosed him now and he's getting help! I don't really know what else to say other than the counseling should help a lot and I'm sure he'll forgive you for yelling at him. This is a good thing for him and it's okay to be scared for him. __________________ Wifey to nstarsweetie and missmaaaine, pog to miraluu, and TayreehBaykur is my Mistress! Mrow! !

02-01-2008, 12:00 AM	#4 (permalink)
KateTheGreat Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ft. Hood Posts: 145 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 32%	this is a positive step! It's also a scary one. You will be JUST FINE. and it's GREAT that he's getting help! maybe a good thing for you is on my army life too, the battle mind program is a training program for so's who have soldiers with PTSD. also, there's a thread in here somewhere where i posted resources. good luck and we're here for oyu. kate __________________ "I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman." ~Anaïs Nin THIS "KateTheGreat" is in no way associated or affiliated with "ColdplayKat, aka KateTheGreat" as well or her responses thereof, if you take issue with a response, please take it up with her.

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02-01-2008, 12:07 AM	#6 (permalink)
tinsygrl Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 3,501 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 46% Longevity: 40%

02-01-2008, 02:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
~~Kaiden'sMomma~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 15,011 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 48%	Don't beat yourself up! You were taken by surprise and frustrated. I'm sure he's not mad at you for yelling. He'll be alright.

02-02-2008, 12:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 10% Longevity: 40%	Thank god they diagnosed him. That really is a blessing in disguise. I'm sure you feel incredibly overhwhelmed but try your hardest to be as supportive and understanding as you can be. I wish you nothing but the best!

02-03-2008, 06:12 PM	#9 (permalink)
soldier@home Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 49 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 30%	I have been though two deployments myself and I have been diagnosed with all of the same things. Deployments change you and some people are able to push their feelings aside and move on. Maybe that's what your husband did and once he was back in training it reminded him of whatever he experienced. I have seen and been through things that I don't like to discuss. The only people I confided in was a counselor and psychologist. And it helped to talk, along with medications. I hope this works for your husband, but everyone is different. The best thing for me was having my loved ones understand that I'm not the same person I was before my deployments. My advice to you is just be supportive and let him know that you are there if he wants to talk, but don't pry it will make things worst. Don't worry too much. And be strong for him. There are a lot of veterans with these same problems. If you have any other questions or need to talk I'm here.

02-03-2008, 07:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
kshep Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Missouri Posts: 651 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 31%	I first met my husband after his first deployment. I thought that some of the thinngs he did was just his way. Things changed over time and some of the habbits he had (like how he slept at night, the nightmares the jumpieness) seemed to go away. Well about a month before he deployed some of those old habbits came back. I believe it was his way of getting ready to go back there.I don't care what anyones says anyone who has been deployed has some type of PTSD you just have to be supportive and get educated about it. Good luck. __________________