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11-21-2007, 01:10 PM
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WTF????this is insane
So i just got off the phone with my best friends mom... i didn't even know she had my number... in any case i guess her son matt is hom from Iraq.... he came home last week or something and she is completely freaked out... he would always call me from over there and tell me how much he missed me....we have dealt with alot as friends we tried dating but it didn't work out... when i told him i was married he freaked, and was really upset but he got over it... he was mad because i did it while he was there....anyway since he has gotten hom he has nightmares and his mom says that when she wakes up in the middle of the night she finds him in the bathroom on the floor just staring off... I am really scared for him.. i mean i love him to death he is my best friend and i want to help... well she called me because he was gone this morning and wasn't answering his cell phone.... when she got a hold of him he said that he want to "go somewhere safe"... when she asked him where he was going he said he was "going to see ash" which is me... so apparently he is on his way down here actually he's like an hour away (i live 8 hours away)... i am alittle freaked out, and i have to tell my hubby... Matt will be here before my husband gets here..... i talked to him for a little bit and he saud that he can't sleep or even think, he said he feels like he is going crazy... he said he has horrible nightmares.... how can i help him???? what do i do???? my husband and him get along but matt always says he is jealous of him.... i'm kind of having a panic attack....
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11-21-2007, 01:25 PM
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Sounds like he is suffering from PTSD. Maybe you can calm him down a bit and help him get the help he needs?
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11-21-2007, 01:36 PM
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well he is here...and he is playing with me daughter an our new kitty bo....i can tell he is trying to be normal... we haven't talked about anything yet... he says he wants to wait until my daughter takes her nap... you know my life is confusing enough and then i have to deal with this too... i just want to make thanksgiving dinner and pig out... i told my husband and he is confused, and alittle upset... on the brite side he said everything is gonna be alright and that we need to help him as much as possible. he is just upset that he put me and my family in this position
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11-21-2007, 01:43 PM
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 I think what he wants is the one steadfast thing in his life to help him. You... Good luck, girl. (I hope that all goes well for all involved, it's not often that friends like you come along.) 
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11-21-2007, 02:41 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about the PTSD. He probably feels really safe with you - remember the good times that you've had as best friends.
Just try to be understanding and let him know that there is support for him! Since you are his best friend, maybe you can help him through his process by looking up information, going to counseling with him... I know that your DB is a little confused by it, but this is serious stuff!!!! There's a reason why your best friend is your best friend. He is coming to you for help... 
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11-21-2007, 03:21 PM
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He obviously needs help or someone to talk to. Your doing the right thing by being honest with your husband, just try and be a friend to him the best you can. Sometimes just listening to someone's problems can help them out.
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11-21-2007, 06:56 PM
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I understand that you want to be his friend and try and help him out, but it sounds as if this is out of your league. He may need some professional help. As a friend you could try and talk him into getting some help. Be his friend but keep a safe distance. Noone really knows how serious this can get, I am not trying to scare you just make you aware and to be careful. He needs somewhere safe and comfortable and you seem to be it, but you are married and there is only soem understanding a husband will have before things may get complicated. You should trya nd talk to his mom and see if you guys can come up with a plan to try and get him soem help.
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11-24-2007, 10:14 PM
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He has all the symptoms of ptsd. He should definetly let the military know.And they can help him find someone to speak too. Sometimes when people suffer from ptsd. They have nightmares. They may also cry and want to be alone. Thats what happens to my db.It's scary. But all you can do is be there for them
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11-24-2007, 10:25 PM
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As a friend, you can guide him to the right direction for help so he knows its okay to reach out for help. I'm glad your husband is supportive, just be sure you and your husband help him together to get the help he needs. Good luck and keep us informed of any updates.
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11-25-2007, 04:46 PM
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Update:
Ok so thanksgiving went great... he didn't kill ayone...lol... oh and nither did my husband. I talked to him about everything and he has agreed to see someone for help.... the only catch is he wants to stay with us for a while... Jay says it's ok because kaleigh doesn't use her room anyway.. i am really excited that he is getting help... he seems to be doing ok here with us... he likes to help out.. he has had a few nightmares.... but for the most part he sleep soundly...jason is alittle worried about me being here alone with him with our daughter... but monday i amtaking him to talk to some one on the airforce base... i will keep you all posted
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