They told me this was normal..

[leftover]

..But I kinda figured that we were above all the strereotypes of the re-integration

He spends most of his time alone in the basement, or outside. He doesn't really want to be around us, he wants to be by himself. He goes downstairs as soon as he comes home, and sits on the couch in the rec-room and sleeps. He'll come to bed around 10-10:30. But he doesn't eat dinner with us most of the time, he'll just come upstairs and make a sandwich, then go back downstairs.

We talked about it last night, I told him how I spent 2 years by myself waiting for him to come home. I told him how lonely I was, and how I missed adult conversation and adult company.

HE said, that I was the lucky one, because in those two years he NEVER got a chance to be alone or have any privacy. He couldn't get away from people in his can, in the shower, or in the ****ter. There was always someone who wanted his time, or wanted something from him. And now that he's home, he just wants to be left alone... Okay.... I understand.

I suppose he hasn't been home for that long, and it's probably asking too much that he get back into our "normal" life right now... He told me not to take it personally, it's not that he DOESN'T want to be around me, he just wants to be alone.

When command told us that this was going to happen, I thought, "Not usw, I'M LOVEABLE, and he's going to want to be with me all the time. " Not so.

But I'm glad that he talked to me about it.....

[Kelsey]

I'm glad you guys can talk about these things. That's really really rough. I hope the rest of your re-adjustment process happens smoothly and as quickly as it can, and I pray that you can maintain the strength and dignity to make it through one of the hardest times of deployment

[Jennifer]

I'm sorry Lindsey. Can you maybe get him to compromise and eat upstairs? Even if he just gives you 30 minutes, that is an improvement.

[USMCSGTsGirl1239]

Originally Posted by leftover ..But I kinda figured that we were above all the strereotypes of the re-integration He spends most of his time alone in the basement, or outside. He doesn't really want to be around us, he wants to be by himself. He goes downstairs as soon as he comes home, and sits on the couch in the rec-room and sleeps. He'll come to bed around 10-10:30. But he doesn't eat dinner with us most of the time, he'll just come upstairs and make a sandwich, then go back downstairs. We talked about it last night, I told him how I spent 2 years by myself waiting for him to come home. I told him how lonely I was, and how I missed adult conversation and adult company. HE said, that I was the lucky one, because in those two years he NEVER got a chance to be alone or have any privacy. He couldn't get away from people in his can, in the shower, or in the ****ter. There was always someone who wanted his time, or wanted something from him. And now that he's home, he just wants to be left alone... Okay.... I understand. I suppose he hasn't been home for that long, and it's probably asking too much that he get back into our "normal" life right now... He told me not to take it personally, it's not that he DOESN'T want to be around me, he just wants to be alone. When command told us that this was going to happen, I thought, "Not usw, I'M LOVEABLE, and he's going to want to be with me all the time. " Not so. But I'm glad that he talked to me about it.....

[sgmwife1]

I am very sorry your going through this. Please know that. Im so sorry.

[rosebud*]

re-integration is tough. I can't believe how strong you are.

[JoyS]

I am sorry you are still having some problems with it. You are a strong woman though I am sure it is tough.

[*MarineBug*]

what a lucky man to have such a wonderful understanding wife

[Becca]

It feels like a step in the right direction that at least he's talking.

I'm so sorry you're going through this and I wish I could say something to make everything better - but I know I can't. Just know that you're in my thoughts and prayers and I sincerely hope things will get better for you in time.

[LittleMsSunshine]

Lefty, I you.

I'm not sure how helpful I'd be, but I want you to know that I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.