I think he has PTSD - PTSD

Brittany Rashel · 10-14-2007, 09:21 AM

I got on myspace this morning and he sent me this

"I really need a hug... I feel so dark inside... like im lossing all feelings for everything...I think Iraq and what ive done and seen affected me and this topped it off... I just really need a hug some physical form of love.... I wish so bad I could be there in your arms right now... I dont want thise whole situation to ruin who I am...I love you."

He's still over in Iraq and I'm really wanting to try to figure out something REALLY special to send him so that he knows there is hope back home and that things will be ok. I don't care how expensive it is. Please help!!! I need advise.

girl20racer · 10-14-2007, 09:26 AM

I don't have any advice.. I'm sorry sweetie!

Kelsey · 10-14-2007, 09:32 AM

Not sure if it's PTSD but it sounds like it sure could turn into that once he's home. It could just be he's suffering from some moderate depression. I think all you can really do is give him as many kind words and as much encouragement as you can

Brittany Rashel · 10-14-2007, 09:50 AM

Originally Posted by Kelsey

Not sure if it's PTSD but it sounds like it sure could turn into that once he's home. It could just be he's suffering from some moderate depression. I think all you can really do is give him as many kind words and as much encouragement as you can

Thanks for the

. I'll try to be a encouraging as possible.

lacy+chk · 10-14-2007, 10:08 AM

i would also say that it probably isn't PTSD...he's depressed and with a good reason. My DF goes through days like this, but you just have to remain positive and supportive and he will probably have a better day soon...if not tomorrow, the next day! Hang in there!

missk · 10-14-2007, 12:19 PM

well by definition it can't be PTSD because he isn't out of the extremely stressful situation yet. But I know it must be hard on you to hear him so down. On the bright side, just talking to you about it probably makes him feel better to some extent. I don't know about what to send him, I'm really bad at gift ideas! Is this his 1st deployment?

CoffeeGirl · 10-14-2007, 12:25 PM

petsparkle · 10-14-2007, 12:33 PM

What about a "hug in a box" something you can make with pictures of you two together. Put some little treasures that mean something to you about your relationship and memories you have of fun things you've done together. Decorate the box and put a big ribbon around it. Now everytime he needs a hug, he has his hug-in-a-box.

Brittany Rashel · 10-14-2007, 12:50 PM

Originally Posted by petsparkle

What about a "hug in a box" something you can make with pictures of you two together. Put some little treasures that mean something to you about your relationship and memories you have of fun things you've done together. Decorate the box and put a big ribbon around it. Now everytime he needs a hug, he has his hug-in-a-box.

aw that is such a sweet idea!! Thanks much

10-14-2007, 01:01 PM

I'm so sorry

I agree with everyone else, to give him lots of encouraging words and maybe a long and thoughtful letter about everything he means to you, and happy memories you guys shared together.
A creative carepackage is great too, instead of buying things maybe you could go to crafts store and pick up something to make for him to show you put a lot of effort in it and is something special he can keep forever. A lot of fun kid-like stuff is always good, thats one things men can never grow out of liking

I hope things get better

10-14-2007, 09:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
Brittany Rashel Surviving deployment #2 Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Me: Ft Bliss, TX / Him: Iraq Posts: 9,163 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 63% Longevity: 38%	I think he has PTSD I got on myspace this morning and he sent me this "I really need a hug... I feel so dark inside... like im lossing all feelings for everything...I think Iraq and what ive done and seen affected me and this topped it off... I just really need a hug some physical form of love.... I wish so bad I could be there in your arms right now... I dont want thise whole situation to ruin who I am...I love you." He's still over in Iraq and I'm really wanting to try to figure out something REALLY special to send him so that he knows there is hope back home and that things will be ok. I don't care how expensive it is. Please help!!! I need advise. __________________

10-14-2007, 09:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
girl20racer MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: May 2007 Location: Yongsan Army Garrison-Seoul, South Korea Posts: 10,018 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	I don't have any advice.. I'm sorry sweetie! __________________ Freedom & Tina Our Blog: http://thebaptistas.blogspot.com/ "To disagree with me is your human right. To argue with me just because you think you are right and want to see me wrong makes you legally retarded."

10-14-2007, 09:32 AM	#3 (permalink)
Kelsey Happy little tree Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Manhattan, KS Posts: 7,856 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 52%	Not sure if it's PTSD but it sounds like it sure could turn into that once he's home. It could just be he's suffering from some moderate depression. I think all you can really do is give him as many kind words and as much encouragement as you can __________________ Keep up with all of our adventures with renovating a 1960s ranch house - check out MY BLOG!

10-14-2007, 10:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
lacy+chk Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Camp Pendleton! Posts: 8,269 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 5% Longevity: 39%	i would also say that it probably isn't PTSD...he's depressed and with a good reason. My DF goes through days like this, but you just have to remain positive and supportive and he will probably have a better day soon...if not tomorrow, the next day! Hang in there! __________________

10-14-2007, 12:19 PM	#6 (permalink)
missk Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 670 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 36%	well by definition it can't be PTSD because he isn't out of the extremely stressful situation yet. But I know it must be hard on you to hear him so down. On the bright side, just talking to you about it probably makes him feel better to some extent. I don't know about what to send him, I'm really bad at gift ideas! Is this his 1st deployment? __________________ All of my heart is in Iraq! 12 months down. A few more days to go. One Man Worth the Wait!

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10-14-2007, 12:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
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10-14-2007, 12:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
petsparkle Survived 8 deployments... Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 4,115 Classifieds: (5) Activity: 1% Longevity: 35%	What about a "hug in a box" something you can make with pictures of you two together. Put some little treasures that mean something to you about your relationship and memories you have of fun things you've done together. Decorate the box and put a big ribbon around it. Now everytime he needs a hug, he has his hug-in-a-box. __________________ "If you can't stand behind our troops, feel free to stand in front of them."

10-14-2007, 01:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
AMNbreedsGirl09 Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	I'm so sorry I agree with everyone else, to give him lots of encouraging words and maybe a long and thoughtful letter about everything he means to you, and happy memories you guys shared together. A creative carepackage is great too, instead of buying things maybe you could go to crafts store and pick up something to make for him to show you put a lot of effort in it and is something special he can keep forever. A lot of fun kid-like stuff is always good, thats one things men can never grow out of liking I hope things get better