he isn't home yet, but....... - Post Deployment

armywife1996 · 09-23-2009, 09:51 PM

he is being completely unreasonable. We are PCCS'ing immediately. I am about to virutally slap DH! He is being such a jerk! I am trying to be patient, but if he thinks we are going to kiss his ass, he has another thing coming to him! Dd wants him to meet her boyfriend when we come back here. He said no way, he could care less and then proceeded to throw a fit! I told him it is important to her because they are both important to her and she loves dad very much. This is a way to share wha has been going on in her life the last few months. He doesn't care. How can I help him see that he is tearing his 16 yo daughter apart?

*ashley* · 09-24-2009, 01:48 PM

maybe you should try to handle the situation in another way by helping your daughter understand why her dad might be reacting in this way. maybe she should wait a little bit before she has the dad and the boy to meet. jmo.

OliveJuice · 09-24-2009, 01:51 PM

I can't give you any advice because if my husband did that I would throw my own fit and then MAKE him go meet my dd's bf. That's just no excuse. It's not his daughters fault that he misses out on some of her life! He should suck it up and meet the guy to be a good father.

armywife1996 · 09-24-2009, 08:41 PM

that is exactly what I have been doing Olive. he said he would meet he, but he wouldn't like it. We actually argues for quite some time and I ended up hanging up on him today. I love him very much, and I know he has been through a lot, but he is going to end up pushing her away. She already thinks he is heartless and doesn't care about her feelings.

Ashley... We don't have time to wait. I pick him up at Fort Riley, come back here to see his family for 2 days, then go to Lewis. If we HAD the time, that would be a great idea, but it isn't.

nana_bear15 · 10-14-2009, 12:23 AM

Take away the 16 year old daughter and I thought I was reading about me. I have come to theorize that he last part of deployment they go CRAZY. DH and I fought over so much!!! Once he thought that the school bell was some guy knocking at my door???? We actually fought over the sound. If it were my dad I would think he would just be freaking out that I had a boyfriend

. Probably hurts him that he isn't there for that. My dad actually would find something petty and blow it up about me because he was just so fustrated he couldn't be there but he really couldn't explain why he was so upset until after he came home. But I agree no butt kissing. Now did he tell dd that or did he tell you that about not wanting to meet dd's boyfriend. If he doesn't want to meet dd's boyfriend he should tell her that. If not I would just brush it off and tell dd that daddy is just upset that he is missing his daughter and he is having a hard time letting his little dd go and accept she is turning into a young lady. He can confront that himself when he comes home there is no reason to make dd feel bad.

armywife1996 · 11-05-2009, 10:34 PM

He did meet the bf for about 20 seconds. It has been a nightmare since he came home when it comes to the kids. We are all moved in to the new duty station and he is still saying/doing things to let the kids know that he does not agree with my parenting and they should be thankful that I am much nicer then he is. It is all very strange.

09-23-2009, 09:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
armywife1996 Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 56 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 4%	he isn't home yet, but....... he is being completely unreasonable. We are PCCS'ing immediately. I am about to virutally slap DH! He is being such a jerk! I am trying to be patient, but if he thinks we are going to kiss his ass, he has another thing coming to him! Dd wants him to meet her boyfriend when we come back here. He said no way, he could care less and then proceeded to throw a fit! I told him it is important to her because they are both important to her and she loves dad very much. This is a way to share wha has been going on in her life the last few months. He doesn't care. How can I help him see that he is tearing his 16 yo daughter apart?

09-24-2009, 01:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
ashley hello, governor! Join Date: May 2009 Location: me: bowling green, ky; my heart: iraq Posts: 1,443 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 47% Longevity: 9%	maybe you should try to handle the situation in another way by helping your daughter understand why her dad might be reacting in this way. maybe she should wait a little bit before she has the dad and the boy to meet. jmo. __________________ my wifeys: rei, kaylah, his_girl, redhead_navygf, lildixiemiss, blinkybear, sapphiremommy and lovemyjarhead

09-24-2009, 01:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
OliveJuice I'm a dirty martini! ;) Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Me:Kansas / DH:Georgia (for now) Posts: 5,196 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 67% Longevity: 11%	I can't give you any advice because if my husband did that I would throw my own fit and then MAKE him go meet my dd's bf. That's just no excuse. It's not his daughters fault that he misses out on some of her life! He should suck it up and meet the guy to be a good father. __________________ I want something good to die for, to make it beautiful to live. Lovin my wify's; Amber Lu, withyounear, Jilly and goincrazixo!

10-14-2009, 12:23 AM	#5 (permalink)
nana_bear15 What? I'm just a Sassy Southern Bell! Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: back in baby's arms in Jacksonville, NC Posts: 2,339 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 30%	Take away the 16 year old daughter and I thought I was reading about me. I have come to theorize that he last part of deployment they go CRAZY. DH and I fought over so much!!! Once he thought that the school bell was some guy knocking at my door???? We actually fought over the sound. If it were my dad I would think he would just be freaking out that I had a boyfriend . Probably hurts him that he isn't there for that. My dad actually would find something petty and blow it up about me because he was just so fustrated he couldn't be there but he really couldn't explain why he was so upset until after he came home. But I agree no butt kissing. Now did he tell dd that or did he tell you that about not wanting to meet dd's boyfriend. If he doesn't want to meet dd's boyfriend he should tell her that. If not I would just brush it off and tell dd that daddy is just upset that he is missing his daughter and he is having a hard time letting his little dd go and accept she is turning into a young lady. He can confront that himself when he comes home there is no reason to make dd feel bad. __________________

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09-24-2009, 08:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
armywife1996 Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 56 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 4%	that is exactly what I have been doing Olive. he said he would meet he, but he wouldn't like it. We actually argues for quite some time and I ended up hanging up on him today. I love him very much, and I know he has been through a lot, but he is going to end up pushing her away. She already thinks he is heartless and doesn't care about her feelings. Ashley... We don't have time to wait. I pick him up at Fort Riley, come back here to see his family for 2 days, then go to Lewis. If we HAD the time, that would be a great idea, but it isn't.

11-05-2009, 10:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
armywife1996 Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 56 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 4%	He did meet the bf for about 20 seconds. It has been a nightmare since he came home when it comes to the kids. We are all moved in to the new duty station and he is still saying/doing things to let the kids know that he does not agree with my parenting and they should be thankful that I am much nicer then he is. It is all very strange.