Have you Girls ever felt this way?!?!

[Ilovemyarmyscout]

I have been feeling really off lately and IDK what to do...like I dont really sleep anymore and I barely eat....i eat enough just to keep alive...and not by choice...I mean im scared and I have all these other mixed emotions. I talk to my love every night and no matter how many times he reasures me I cant get it outta my head...I have a list going on in my head about what needs to be done before he comes home..Like some of the things are really stupid...like what am I going to wear when I see him...or when he comes home and he wants to sleep what sheets to put on my bed...Or like when I wash his clothes what scent does he want..And others are really serious like whats going to happen when he leaves, are things getting taken care of..and like Are things going to change between us.... Can anyone help me like sort this out...or at least any advice!

PLEASE

[EMSJunkie911]

sounds like you just wanna go the extra mile to please the one you love. Its normal. trust me

[Ilovemyarmyscout]

Really? I just feel lost

[hisqueen]

thats normal.. I had mixed feelings too when my hubby came home the 1st time.. you just dont know how its guna be just stay possitive and do what you gota do hun you are alright.

[Ilovemyarmyscout]

My thing is he hasnt left yet...hes deploying in April...he in training now...

[Marc'sGirlfriend]

I feel the same way. Mine is training now, not sure when he is deploying. I am scared out of my mind! I have so many mixed feelings now from being so proud of him to depressed tring to figure out what i'm supposed to do without him. Every second of my life I am consumed with thoughts about him, so no you are so not alone with your feelings.

[Ilovemyarmyscout]

Thank goodness im not alone...i totally can relate to it...I miss mine to dont worry...I dont know what to do anymore its getting harder every second...like as the days get closer to saying hello..its closer to saying goodbye..ya know?

[AirborneGirl]

Take deep breaths when you feel yourself going a little bonkers. I learned in a smoking cessation class that when you deep, slow breathe your lungs or diaphram (or something) push on a nerve that triggers a release of endorphins in your brain and helps you calm down.

Try to look at his deployment as a good thing. I was having a LOT of trouble coping with DB's upcoming deployment, worries about his homecoming, etc. Then I thought of how good it will be to have him and never have to say goodbye for that long again (he'll be getting out shortly after his deployment). After a couple of weeks of thinking like that, I'm actually ready for him to go. The sooner he leaves, the sooner I get him back forever and get all this nonsense over and done with.

And when you're going nuts over trying to decide on every little detail, just think of this: he'll probably be so tired and so glad to be home that he won't really notice what sheets are on the bed, what scent his clothes are, etc. The little things like that probably won't be a big deal. If anything, hell probably want them to be like the way they were when he left.

Most importantly: do what makes you feel happy and comfortable. Good luck!

[OneIllWife]

It's TOTALLY NORMAL! Actually, you remind me of myself. Especially early on. Six years of being with DH...We've been married a year and a half....And I STILL get this way at first. I have to have that initial freak out. I don't know why, I just do. I get all in a dither about the little details. Most of the big things I get taken care of. The laundry gets done (maybe not perfectly), the bed gets made (with whatever sheets are handy), I have food in the fridge (whatever I find that looks good when I'm at the store), I find something to where (he doesn't notice the clothes just that he thinks I look good...But let's be honest...He hasn't looked at a woman like that in god knows how long). TO HIM everything is perfect, and WHY? Because HE'S HOME! HOME IS PERFECTION!

If you think he's gonna walk around looking to make sure you did all that stuff, and sniff the laundry....(here's where I need a buzzer)...wrong...He's going to sit...err...PLOP...on the couch...take off his boots and veg for at least a few minutes...Then probably want a shower....It devolves into personals from there...But you get the picture...there is no inspection of your "wifely duties" he's gonna love you for any effort you put in and just the fact that you're there.

At any rate...Keep you're head up and let me know if you need any thing.

[Regina08]

Ugh, I've been feeling the same way too. I keep stressing and worrying what things are going to be like when he comes back. Are they going to be the same? Will he still love me with all his heart? ETC. I know the answer to all these things, but I just worry. I guess it's pretty normal for all of us have these thoughts, especially the first timers. I try to stay as positive as possble. PM anytime if you ever wan to talk.