He's coming home early February!

[Mkane]

My husband left about 15 months ago. and now he's finally coming home. Ever since his family and friends found out he's coming home they are all hiding stuff talking to me like I'm not at their Level! He's Hiding stuff, Lying and talking down to me like i'm never gonna be what he deserves. We fight constantly and he makes it my fault and turns it around. My family is telling me he's PERFECT nd im the one messing up but all i do is work and come home trying to get everything ready for him! I'm in RI right now and he's stationed in TX so i won't even see him till mid february and he actually gets bak to texas this week! i don't know what to do anymore i feel like all he does is lie and hide stuff and its like i can't ask him anything cuz then im the horrible wife nd i just don't know what to do anymore i've put my life on hold for him 3 times and i'm not sure if i should let him go his way nd i go mine so that he can figure out wat he wants!

Basically i need help! i don't know what to do about him coming home, lying , and hiding everything from me! HELP ME please!

[LoveDisappears]

I'm not to sure what to say hun.. really didn't give me much info to go on.
What's he lying to you about?

[Mkane]

He's lying about EVERYTHING and its so odd! It's like he's lying Just to lie. He doesn't call me anymore or email me he talks to me on aim and bfore he was always calling. he's supposed to be going bak to TX where we were living before he left but told me i can't go down till march and he's hiding alot of stuff from me and flippin out about bills and my cat and dog and he said that i need to be able to pay my car insurance cell phone credit card and rent because he's not working his ass off to help me. and im just so confused cause wen we first got married and he left he tried to help and said he wanted to help as much as he could cause he can't be here physically and i never accepted any of it unless it was an emergancy and now he's talking to this girl missy that tells him im bad for him and he should just get rid of me cuz he deserves someone better. She's his Ex by the way! and i need help! i feel so confusd and i dont wanna fight with him cuz i love him so much and miss him sooo much!

[BJo]

Why don't you address the issue with him?

[Mkane]

i tried! he flips out saying that im the liar and im the one home with my family and friends and i need to get off his back! and then its like he gets sweet for a day or so and is like baby im sorry i didn't mean to upset you i just had alot on my mind but then does it all over nd just keeps hiding stuff and says its not my effin business and that i need to leave his life alone and get my own and it just gets so confusing because i never know if its gonna be a good day or a bad one with us! i'm scard for him to come home.

[fitmommyof4]

Wow I am not sure what is going on, but if he's your husband then why wouldnt he want to help you pay for stuff.. and if it's your cat and don't aren't they his cat and dog as well. I though marriage was supporting each other. Why wouldn't he want you in TX when he got back? I would just ask him directly.

[Luzenza]

Originally Posted by BrittanyJo Why don't you address the issue with him?

I agree....you might need to do this face to face, take a bus, or rent a car, go down there and have a face to face heart to heart. He owes you the truth, and answers, but you might not get it over the phone or through email/AIM.