He wants to go back - Post Deployment

Miss.Maggie · 09-08-2008, 09:43 AM

DF has been home for a few months now, and all he talks about is when he "gets to go back" when he is not talking about that everything is wonderful, the wedding planning we are buying a home, but he only seems really excited when he talks about going back. I know that another deployment is possible and I can handle it but I wish he would not seem so excited about it and wish it were here. Any thoughts on how I can bring this up without seeming like I dont care about his job?

thanks ladies

LoveKiss · 09-08-2008, 09:48 AM

I wish I had some good advice. D just came home from Iraq in May and was talking about how he wants to go to Afghanistan next time. I gave him the look of death and told him that, if he has to go (and of course he does), I much preferred ship duty to him going on the ground. Some guys just can't stay in 1 place for long. Ex-db was the same way.

I guess we can be greatful that they like the job and aren't miserable, right?

Miss.Maggie · 09-08-2008, 09:49 AM

I guess we can be thankful of that much

BJo · 09-08-2008, 10:50 AM

After DH's first deployment he talked about going back a lot. It hurt but then he explained that he felt he still had so much to do and wanted to help out his buddies still. kwim?

Miss.Maggie · 09-08-2008, 11:09 AM

Originally Posted by BrittanyJo

After DH's first deployment he talked about going back a lot. It hurt but then he explained that he felt he still had so much to do and wanted to help out his buddies still. kwim?

thank you, i never thought of that.

jessicam · 09-08-2008, 11:37 AM

Yeah, I can totally understand where you're coming from. DF is actually pretty happy about being in Iraq. He just explained to me that he wouldn't feel the same if he hadn't been deployed; he wouldn't have felt like he was doing his part. For the most part, many of our guys signed up for the military knowing that they would be going over to Iraq or Afghanistan. It's their job, so they're happy to do it. It hurts us who get left behind, but they are fighting for their country, and that's what makes them happy.

alyssa87 · 09-08-2008, 08:08 PM

i've heard about that happening.
they get so used to dealing with the lifestyle around combat [or lack there of from what i've heard lately].
i guess we should be thankful that they aren't miserable going over there &, like another poster said, when they signed the contract they knew they were going to be deployed, so it's not like some big surprise to them.
it hurts us just about as much, but we all cope & deal with it because we love them & they love their job.

AProudArmyBrat · 09-09-2008, 06:27 PM

Phillip was like that. He was in Iraq two times. He was going back to when i meet him he was in training but something happened and now hes stationed at Fort Jackson where he was training at. And it just sucks. But now i guess hes just waiting. he told me about how he wants a tat of the soldiers names he lost and other things. he showed me a back so i cant remember what else. but i so don't know want to tell you i guess just let him talk about it even if it hurts and carefully say how you feel. and i just hope he doesn't get mad. cause Phillip didn't when i told him how glad i was since he wasn't going back. but he was disappointed about it for 3 days then okay with it.

~~goldilockz~~ · 09-09-2008, 06:30 PM

It's normal. Most of us want to go back after we've been. We feel like by coming home, we've abandoned our comrades in arms in a warzone. It's very hard to feel like you've turned your back on your fellow Soldiers.

~~MichelleAllison~~ · 09-09-2008, 11:02 PM

My DF is still on deployment and is already excited about his next one, he found out today when and where he is going and I'm not happy about the details. When I try to talk about our upcoming wedding and moving in all he wants to talk about is getting sent to combat... if you figure out how to talk to him feel free to let me know. I'm glad my guy likes his job and I fully support him but still...

09-08-2008, 09:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
Miss.Maggie I am iowa_lady Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bartonville IL, his Unit is out of Chicago Posts: 15,095 Blog Entries: 9 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 97% Longevity: 33%	He wants to go back DF has been home for a few months now, and all he talks about is when he "gets to go back" when he is not talking about that everything is wonderful, the wedding planning we are buying a home, but he only seems really excited when he talks about going back. I know that another deployment is possible and I can handle it but I wish he would not seem so excited about it and wish it were here. Any thoughts on how I can bring this up without seeming like I dont care about his job? thanks ladies __________________ I am iowa_lady we're the ** Thanks Ducky for the Siggy**

09-08-2008, 09:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
LoveKiss Dream as if you'll live forever; live as if you'll die today Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 8,944 Blog Entries: 11 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 71% Longevity: 28%	I wish I had some good advice. D just came home from Iraq in May and was talking about how he wants to go to Afghanistan next time. I gave him the look of death and told him that, if he has to go (and of course he does), I much preferred ship duty to him going on the ground. Some guys just can't stay in 1 place for long. Ex-db was the same way. I guess we can be greatful that they like the job and aren't miserable, right? __________________ MSOS wifey love makes the world go round.

09-08-2008, 09:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
Miss.Maggie I am iowa_lady Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bartonville IL, his Unit is out of Chicago Posts: 15,095 Blog Entries: 9 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 97% Longevity: 33%	I guess we can be thankful of that much __________________ I am iowa_lady we're the ** Thanks Ducky for the Siggy**

09-08-2008, 11:37 AM	#6 (permalink)
jessicam Hi. My name is Jessica, and I have a Chipotle problem. Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Me: Colorado, Him: Iraq Posts: 963 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 27%	Yeah, I can totally understand where you're coming from. DF is actually pretty happy about being in Iraq. He just explained to me that he wouldn't feel the same if he hadn't been deployed; he wouldn't have felt like he was doing his part. For the most part, many of our guys signed up for the military knowing that they would be going over to Iraq or Afghanistan. It's their job, so they're happy to do it. It hurts us who get left behind, but they are fighting for their country, and that's what makes them happy. __________________

09-08-2008, 08:08 PM	#7 (permalink)
alyssa87 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: ft. hood, tx Posts: 927 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 29%	i've heard about that happening. they get so used to dealing with the lifestyle around combat [or lack there of from what i've heard lately]. i guess we should be thankful that they aren't miserable going over there &, like another poster said, when they signed the contract they knew they were going to be deployed, so it's not like some big surprise to them. it hurts us just about as much, but we all cope & deal with it because we love them & they love their job. __________________

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09-08-2008, 10:50 AM	#4 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	After DH's first deployment he talked about going back a lot. It hurt but then he explained that he felt he still had so much to do and wanted to help out his buddies still. kwim?

09-09-2008, 06:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
AProudArmyBrat DADDY'S LIL ARMY BRAT Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Me in Springdale Arkansas daddy in heaven Posts: 707 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 21%	Phillip was like that. He was in Iraq two times. He was going back to when i meet him he was in training but something happened and now hes stationed at Fort Jackson where he was training at. And it just sucks. But now i guess hes just waiting. he told me about how he wants a tat of the soldiers names he lost and other things. he showed me a back so i cant remember what else. but i so don't know want to tell you i guess just let him talk about it even if it hurts and carefully say how you feel. and i just hope he doesn't get mad. cause Phillip didn't when i told him how glad i was since he wasn't going back. but he was disappointed about it for 3 days then okay with it.

09-09-2008, 06:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
~~goldilockz~~ Banned Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 25,823 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 47%	It's normal. Most of us want to go back after we've been. We feel like by coming home, we've abandoned our comrades in arms in a warzone. It's very hard to feel like you've turned your back on your fellow Soldiers.

09-09-2008, 11:02 PM	#10 (permalink)
~~MichelleAllison~~ Banned Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Me=TX; Him=Cali Posts: 6,211 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 21%	My DF is still on deployment and is already excited about his next one, he found out today when and where he is going and I'm not happy about the details. When I try to talk about our upcoming wedding and moving in all he wants to talk about is getting sent to combat... if you figure out how to talk to him feel free to let me know. I'm glad my guy likes his job and I fully support him but still...