I have decided to enter therapy!!! - Post Deployment

carolina76 · 08-04-2008, 07:36 PM

DB has been home for a month and a half and he is OUT OF CONTROL....He needs help but won't talk to anyone, doesn't feel like being intimate, yells, tells me he does not care what I think, etc..So I have decided to get help myself. I can't talk to him about how much he hurts me, but I have to do something. Has anyone eles sought therapy to learn how to cope with post deployment issues? I am at my wits end

Amber · 08-04-2008, 07:51 PM

was he in iraq? because it sounds like PTSD to me, and he will need lots of patience and love from you. and therapy for him, too.

carolina76 · 08-04-2008, 07:55 PM

Yes, third deployment, he knows he is messed up in the head, and knows he takes it out on me, I have tried to be patient but I feel like he hates me, not wanted, etc, I know he can't handle my emotions so I will do what I can to make it easier on him. his helicopter went down and it was bad, I think it is PTSD to but he says he should be strong enough to handle this and that he can fix himself, I talk to his roomate about trying to get him help because he just gets mad at me when I bring it up.

Originally Posted by anmiller86

was he in iraq? because it sounds like PTSD to me, and he will need lots of patience and love from you. and therapy for him, too.

Fidzy · 08-04-2008, 07:57 PM

I think therapy is a good idea.

His PTSD also takes a toll on you and the therapist will help give you some strategies with helping him. Best of luck!

jlbecker · 08-04-2008, 08:05 PM

therapy is always a good idea

chelsea<3josh · 08-04-2008, 08:23 PM

i went into therapy when db got home from iraq...it was tough he was different. after 11 months i feel like he's finally becoming himself again. but he was the same way you describe your db...and my db didn't get help for himself either. i brought it up a few times, but he did not want to hear it. so i did it for myself, and it helps because i was feeling so bad about myself, and i realized that it's not me, and i learned to deal with things better

it is so difficult dealing with this, and it's sad that they have to go through so much crap there that they can't even be happy when they are finally home.

cllgefrk13 · 08-04-2008, 08:23 PM

I think its a great idea. I'm glad to hear you're doing it.

kiwijus · 08-04-2008, 08:28 PM

It's a good thing you're getting help.

bailliesbags · 08-04-2008, 08:46 PM

I will start some sort of therapy before dh comes home. I can't go thru post deployment like last time again.

08-04-2008, 07:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
carolina76 Preparing for Deployment #2 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Him:Ft Bragg Me: Charlotte Posts: 440 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 26%	I have decided to enter therapy!!! DB has been home for a month and a half and he is OUT OF CONTROL....He needs help but won't talk to anyone, doesn't feel like being intimate, yells, tells me he does not care what I think, etc..So I have decided to get help myself. I can't talk to him about how much he hurts me, but I have to do something. Has anyone eles sought therapy to learn how to cope with post deployment issues? I am at my wits end __________________ He's Home!!! Wifey to LoveKiss

08-04-2008, 07:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
Amber deadliest catch without the crabs. Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: we are in va beach. Posts: 15,190 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 92% Longevity: 24%	was he in iraq? because it sounds like PTSD to me, and he will need lots of patience and love from you. and therapy for him, too. __________________

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Fidzy I have a crush on Gen. Clark Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Me: Beantown / Him: Ft. Bragg, NC Posts: 11,828 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 41% Longevity: 33%	I think therapy is a good idea. His PTSD also takes a toll on you and the therapist will help give you some strategies with helping him. Best of luck! __________________

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jlbecker Damn, it feels good to be a gangsta Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 14,412 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 15% Longevity: 55%	therapy is always a good idea __________________ ~ jamie

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cllgefrk13 Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: I'm in Oklahoma, he's stationed at Ft Bragg in NC, but currently deployed to Iraq Posts: 5,128 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 41%	I think its a great idea. I'm glad to hear you're doing it. __________________ Thanks ArtsyBellefor siggy Are you a loser? Cllgefrk13 and Charity -- In it to win it.

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08-04-2008, 08:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
chelsea<3josh my heart is home! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 47%	i went into therapy when db got home from iraq...it was tough he was different. after 11 months i feel like he's finally becoming himself again. but he was the same way you describe your db...and my db didn't get help for himself either. i brought it up a few times, but he did not want to hear it. so i did it for myself, and it helps because i was feeling so bad about myself, and i realized that it's not me, and i learned to deal with things better it is so difficult dealing with this, and it's sad that they have to go through so much crap there that they can't even be happy when they are finally home.

08-04-2008, 08:28 PM	#8 (permalink)
kiwijus Li'l Squat Bird Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 11,819 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 65% Longevity: 44%	It's a good thing you're getting help. __________________

08-04-2008, 08:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
bailliesbags Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: GA Posts: 2,857 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 0% Longevity: 24%	I will start some sort of therapy before dh comes home. I can't go thru post deployment like last time again. __________________ [ I www.bailliesbags.com Military Fun Galore www.mymarkstore.com/astephens