I think I lost him [kinda long]

[MikesWifey]

Ok I am not sure if anyone noticed, but I have not been on this website for a while. Well my SO [no sure what to call him anymore] came back from a 7 month deployment June 2nd and it was not like I thought it was going to be. He basically was really happy to see me at first and then after a while slowly but surely he started to change. He stopped showing emotions, which made me feel like he didnt care about me anymore. He would get mad at everything so fast and not talk about our problems. Everytime he got "pissed off" about anything i said or did he just ignored me or told me he didnt want to talk to me anymore instead of trying to resolve the problem. Well for some reason he never wants to call or text me and when I call or text him he just ignores me. It confuses me bcuz he tells me he loves me more than anything and then he treats me differently. Well we finally made a break thru yesterday at 3am when he called me with alot on his mind. He finally opened up and told me that he is sorry for the way he has been treating me and that he just didnt realize he needs time to adjust to being back here. And we had a long serious talk about how he does love me, but its been hard for him to show it. Well about an hour ago I got pissed off bcuz once again he didnt call me and he ignored my texts and calls the whole day and so I started texting him telling him how I felt. I told him how much it hurts me when he treats me like this and ignores me. Then he texted me back and said, "thanks for waking me up in the middle of the night, dont ****in text me, call me, or anything anymore" and I texted him asking if we are broken up and he said, "yes, goodnight". I just cant believe I just waited a whole 7 month deployment for this guy whos supposed to be my fiance and he breaks up with me over a text message all because I want attention from him and want to be loved by him. Thats all I want. I dont understand this at all. What did I do to deserve to be treated like this by guys all the time? And now the first guy I ever loved has just broken up with me over a text message. I am so hurt right now.

[SemperFiWife]

Aww Im sorry. I hope things work out for the two of you the way they are supposed to. There is a reason for everything.

[J_Conk]

I'm sorry Maybe he just needs some more time. Be patient and whatever will be, will be.

[Amanda011784]

It happened to me too. On Df's R&R we broke up.
However, he came to his senses lol.
Give it a little time. Try to be strong for now.
good luck.

[little.lili]

I think the ladies are right... I think he just needs time to decompress

Try to be patient with him

Sounds like you both love each other but its just been hard for him to adjust to coming home.


I hope things get worked out!!!

[Breezy]

He may just need time to decompress. And for heaven's sake, don't send him text messages in the middle of the night anymore!

[MomWifeMe]

. Maybe step back for a while and give him some space to get back to normal. I am sure everythign will work out for you.

[Tiffy]

You do not deserve to be treated like that, hun. He really needs to change his behavior before it can be a healthy relationship. He'll realize what he lost.

[CoffeeGirl]

I think he is being ridiculous & acting way too quickly without thinking first, give him time, space & room to clear his head-I am sure it will all be ok

[jessie3887]

Originally Posted by J_Conk I'm sorry Maybe he just needs some more time. Be patient and whatever will be, will be.

Sorry you are having to go thru this though. Hang in there and be strong.