At last a phone call - Post Deployment

KSS · 05-05-2008, 11:34 AM

At last last night I got DB on the phone. He's been back from Afgh for a month now and he hasn't wanted to talk to me or see me. I think he picked up because I was calling from France and he didn't recognize the number, but he didn't hang up, and we spoke quite gently about how he's doing and what he's been doing.

He was open finally about some of what's going on. He said he doesn't let himself think about how he's feeling because he's scared about what that might be. He also said he was getting a serious bunch of tests done because he is having trouble remembering things - from the last year and a half. And also that he has an appointment with a counsellor tomorrow. And of course all the usual problems with crowds, noise, driving, sleeping, etc...

We didn't talk about us, but we agreed to talk again... so I don't know. At least I know where he is and how he is and I feel a little less panicked....

joshANDkarly · 05-05-2008, 11:36 AM

I hope that your DB gets to feeling "normal" again and I wish you the best of luck

Missin_Him · 05-05-2008, 11:38 AM

Im sending

to you an you db, Hopefully things will get better soon

lbuconn · 05-05-2008, 12:43 PM

OMG that's great news! And it's good that he finally opened up a little bit to you so you at least know that it's him going through a bunch of stress right now and not you. Slow and steady things will eventually get better.

trtnavywife · 05-05-2008, 12:44 PM

Good luck!! I hope things get better soon!!

MissJasmin25 · 05-05-2008, 12:54 PM

FRANCE! how is your time there??

I really hope your DB starts to get better and starts to let you in more, I'm sure he is just so scared he doesn't want to bring anyone down with him kwim?

you are so strong!

leiawen · 05-06-2008, 11:37 AM

I'm glad he talked to you--I think that will help him...
From what I have seen the hardest part is admitting to someone what's going on...I think a lot of guys still see it as a weakness, when really it's just a sign of how strong they have been for so long...and finally it catches up to them, and it takes a while to sort through it all.

to you, and I hope he continues to communicate with you so that your burden is easier to bear.

c234 · 05-06-2008, 04:39 PM

I'm glad you two talked, i hope he gets back on track soon!

05-05-2008, 11:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
KSS Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 224 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 38%	At last a phone call At last last night I got DB on the phone. He's been back from Afgh for a month now and he hasn't wanted to talk to me or see me. I think he picked up because I was calling from France and he didn't recognize the number, but he didn't hang up, and we spoke quite gently about how he's doing and what he's been doing. He was open finally about some of what's going on. He said he doesn't let himself think about how he's feeling because he's scared about what that might be. He also said he was getting a serious bunch of tests done because he is having trouble remembering things - from the last year and a half. And also that he has an appointment with a counsellor tomorrow. And of course all the usual problems with crowds, noise, driving, sleeping, etc... We didn't talk about us, but we agreed to talk again... so I don't know. At least I know where he is and how he is and I feel a little less panicked.... __________________

05-05-2008, 11:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
joshANDkarly The journey is the reward. Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ft Drum, NY Posts: 986 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 41%	I hope that your DB gets to feeling "normal" again and I wish you the best of luck __________________ I am a feminist

05-05-2008, 11:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Missin_Him Nobody's Like Me Im My Competition Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 1,678 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 28%	Im sending to you an you db, Hopefully things will get better soon __________________ Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. Robert Frost Never let your situation determine your destination..

05-05-2008, 12:43 PM	#4 (permalink)
lbuconn Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 12 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 26%	OMG that's great news! And it's good that he finally opened up a little bit to you so you at least know that it's him going through a bunch of stress right now and not you. Slow and steady things will eventually get better. __________________ ---- Lauren

05-05-2008, 12:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
trtnavywife Christi Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Pearl Harbor, Hawaii Posts: 3,803 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 61%	Good luck!! I hope things get better soon!! __________________

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05-05-2008, 12:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
MissJasmin25 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX & Hubz is in Camp Lejeune, NC Posts: 1,281 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 37%	FRANCE! how is your time there?? I really hope your DB starts to get better and starts to let you in more, I'm sure he is just so scared he doesn't want to bring anyone down with him kwim? you are so strong! __________________

05-06-2008, 11:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
leiawen Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Eglin AFB Posts: 3,378 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 42% Longevity: 38%	I'm glad he talked to you--I think that will help him... From what I have seen the hardest part is admitting to someone what's going on...I think a lot of guys still see it as a weakness, when really it's just a sign of how strong they have been for so long...and finally it catches up to them, and it takes a while to sort through it all. to you, and I hope he continues to communicate with you so that your burden is easier to bear. __________________

05-06-2008, 04:39 PM	#8 (permalink)
c234 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: DC Posts: 258 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 29%	I'm glad you two talked, i hope he gets back on track soon! __________________ HE'S HOME!