*sigh* I Am Scared - Post Deployment

USMCSGTsGirl1239 · 05-03-2008, 05:51 PM

So, here we are a little over 3 weeks after he got home... he spent the first 2.5 weeks ignoring everyone.

Now, he's home in IL... (and I am still in FL.) His dad and mom have gotten to see him, but he's still blowing people off more than not.

I talked to his dad today, he (DB) is so messed up and confused and unsure about what he wants. And he's still wrestling with loyalty issues from his ex fiancee from 2 deployments ago who hurt him bad.

I know I am not her, I know I have been loyal to him, and I know he was wonderful and amazing to me before he left. Now he's treating me like I don't exist.

His dad and his step mom both love me and have told him to call me, but he hasn't. His dad told me that he's so afraid of being hurt again but I wouldn't do that.

I'm afraid that all we had over the time we spent together and the emails and phone calls we had was too good to be true. I am afraid he's going to decide I am not good enough.

I am trying to be patient... but I am so afraid he was feeding me BS, and he will eventually break up with me.

Usually talking to his dad makes me feel better, and it kind of did because he's on my side, but, OMG, I feel like **** right now.

*MarineBug* · 05-03-2008, 08:58 PM

Just because he is scared does not give him a reason to break your heart...

LoveKiss · 05-03-2008, 09:08 PM

s It sounds like he is having some deep issues, but that doesn't give him the right to completely ignore you for so long.

Hope he comes around very soon.

kal916 · 05-03-2008, 09:11 PM

I live 20 minutes from you!

Cheeky Monkey · 05-03-2008, 10:48 PM

i know that this is tough and i wish that there were something that i could do or say to make this better for you. let me know if there is anything that i can do.

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USMCSGTsGirl1239 · 05-03-2008, 10:55 PM

Thanks ladies. I'm going to try and go to sleep. Tomorrow is a new day...

MissJasmin25 · 05-04-2008, 11:50 AM

I'm sorry, alot of us girls that have had homecoming are going through something similar.

we are supposed to be patient and give them time to adjust, but I know it is hard and you need answers too.

i really hope he comes around soon.

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USMCSGTsGirl1239 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ormond Beach, FL Posts: 5,554 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 38%	sigh I Am Scared So, here we are a little over 3 weeks after he got home... he spent the first 2.5 weeks ignoring everyone. Now, he's home in IL... (and I am still in FL.) His dad and mom have gotten to see him, but he's still blowing people off more than not. I talked to his dad today, he (DB) is so messed up and confused and unsure about what he wants. And he's still wrestling with loyalty issues from his ex fiancee from 2 deployments ago who hurt him bad. I know I am not her, I know I have been loyal to him, and I know he was wonderful and amazing to me before he left. Now he's treating me like I don't exist. His dad and his step mom both love me and have told him to call me, but he hasn't. His dad told me that he's so afraid of being hurt again but I wouldn't do that. I'm afraid that all we had over the time we spent together and the emails and phone calls we had was too good to be true. I am afraid he's going to decide I am not good enough. I am trying to be patient... but I am so afraid he was feeding me BS, and he will eventually break up with me. Usually talking to his dad makes me feel better, and it kind of did because he's on my side, but, OMG, I feel like **** right now. __________________

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LoveKiss Dream as if you'll live forever; live as if you'll die today Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 8,946 Blog Entries: 11 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 69% Longevity: 28%	s It sounds like he is having some deep issues, but that doesn't give him the right to completely ignore you for so long. Hope he comes around very soon. __________________ MSOS wifey love makes the world go round.

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USMCSGTsGirl1239 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ormond Beach, FL Posts: 5,554 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 38%	Thanks ladies. I'm going to try and go to sleep. Tomorrow is a new day... __________________

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MissJasmin25 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX & Hubz is in Camp Lejeune, NC Posts: 1,281 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 37%	I'm sorry, alot of us girls that have had homecoming are going through something similar. we are supposed to be patient and give them time to adjust, but I know it is hard and you need answers too. i really hope he comes around soon. __________________