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    Another hot car death

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    There's a fb story trending today about a child who died after being left in the car all day while her mother was a work. All of the comments about it are super negative, many of them accusing the mother of murdering her child and suggesting that it was not an accident at all. It made me wonder how people feel about these incidences. Obviously we have no way of knowing if it was truly an accident or not, I'm just wondering what your knee-jerk reaction is when you read something like this. Do you automatically condemn the parent? Do you think it is even remotely possible to do something like this? Or do you understand how it can happen and/or sympathize with the parent?

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    I really try not to judge things until I have all the facts. Haven't seen that story circulating yet. But the thing that sticks out to me is, how could the mother possibly "forget" that her child was in the car. Literally all day she "forgot". That baffles me. I'm going to try and find the article to read it to see if I can understand better.
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    My kneejerk reaction is to feel overwhelmingly sad for the family. I know there are seriously messed up people in this world but I just can't imagine that someone would purposefully leave their child in the backseat of a car to suffocate to death in the heat.

    I can't even fathom how these people feel afterward but I do believe that most of these incidents are accidents, I have a daily routine and when something is different with it I'm the world's worst about going on autopilot and forgetting to make the extra stop on the way to pick up DD or whatever. I can't even imagine being one of these parents that realizes they have forgotten their child in the car and everyone says it could never happen to them but in reality I can see how the accident could happen.
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    I have not read the article, and I'm not a parent. My thought is maybe she usually drops the child off at daycare on the way to work and for some reason her routine was messed up and she forgot. A sleeping child in the back seat, I guess it could happen. I just don't see how someone walking by didn't notice. I have a casino near me and every summer multiple times a month there is an incident with someone leaving a child in the car while they go in to gamble. The casino has patrols to monitor for kids in the cars, this is clearly not an accident.
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    Quote Originally Posted by caljmw649 View Post
    I really try not to judge things until I have all the facts. Haven't seen that story circulating yet. But the thing that sticks out to me is, how could the mother possibly "forget" that her child was in the car. Literally all day she "forgot". That baffles me. I'm going to try and find the article to read it to see if I can understand better.
    The only article I saw wasn't very detailed, that's why I didn't post it. I'm not sure if there are others.

    The amount of negative comments was really shocking to me, that's why I wanted to get other peoples thoughts.

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    I just don't know how anyone could make that kind of mistake. I'm not implying it was intentional but this is your damn child ... Not a set of keys. How can you do that ? It's beyond me.... just can't wrap my arms around it at all. That being said can you imagine how the parents feel. The whole thing is incredibly sad.
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    I see how it could happen. I honestly don't believe it would ever happen to me, but then neither do the people it happens to. Cases where people deliberately and knowingly leave their kids in the car because of whatever excuses make them feel it's ok are the ones that make me angry. In cases like this one, I don't feel prosecution is usually warranted, but I understand the opposite perspective as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Curious_Nicole View Post
    I just don't know how anyone could make that kind of mistake. I'm not implying it was intentional but this is your damn child ... Not a set of keys. How can you do that ? It's beyond me.... just can't wrap my arms around it at all. That being said can you imagine how the parents feel. The whole thing is incredibly sad.
    The only reason I can sort of see it happening was when I was little my mom left my little sister in her crib when she went to the grocery store by accident. She loaded up two out of the three of us babies/toddlers and forgot she had another. She got half way down the driveway before I asked where so and so was, and she still remembers this happening because it was terrifying to her that she could make that mistake.
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    I can definitely see it happening. My mom once drove my brother and I all the way to her college completely forgetting she hadn't dropped us off at grandma's yet. I mean she/we noticed when we got to the parking lot but it was a pretty long drive (an hour or so).

    So I just feel really sad for them unless and until there is reason to believe it was intentional (any hot car death case not this one in particular).

    Now dogs in a hot car...pure rage because I think it is almost always intentional to leave them there (though I doubt it is usually meant to kill them).
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    Quote Originally Posted by April Lynne View Post
    My kneejerk reaction is to feel overwhelmingly sad for the family. I know there are seriously messed up people in this world but I just can't imagine that someone would purposefully leave their child in the backseat of a car to suffocate to death in the heat.

    I can't even fathom how people these people feel afterward but I do believe that most of these incidents are accidents, I have a daily routine and when something is different with it I'm the world's worst about going on autopilot and forgetting to make the extra stop on the way to pick up DD or whatever. I can't even imagine being one of these parents that realizes they have forgotten their child in the car and everyone says it could never happen to them but in reality I can see how the accident could happen.
    This.

    I canbeleive that some people might leave them in there for "just a moment" and 30 minutes later...

    Murder? No. Should there be punishment? Losing a child by your own fault isn't possible punishment enough? But it's facts and circumstances.
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