"Sharing" your man

[Brandi]

OK, i'm watching the Tyra Banks show and they have Hugh Hefner on there talking about how he is in a relationship with three women (the bunnies who live there) right now. Like, a REAL relationship. They do everything together... dates, sex, watching movies, etc. He said he thinks relationships like this are great b/c it takes the lies and cheating and secrecy out of relationships. He says this is open and honest, blah blah blah. By listening to him, it really sounds like he believes all relationships would benefit from this... having several people at the same time, but being honest and open about it. I guess he and one of the girls are more serious than he and the other two. So, when Tyra asked the one girl how she felt about sharing him, she hesitated and said something to the effect of "I think everyone wants to have the person they love all to their selves. Its fun right now, but I have thought that maybe when I am older I may want him to myself". That right there tells me she feels or has felt at least a little bit of jealousy.

What do you think about this? Do you think it would ever benefit a relationship? Do you think divorce rates would go down and couples would have less problems if everyone sort of opened their door to having another parter or two involved (either in sex or the relationship)?

On a side note, she asked him how many people he's had sex with and he said honestly that he quit counting but it is up to at least "several THOUSAND". No lie.

I don't know how any woman that is/was with him could ever feel special. Knowing that he's been with that many people and likes to date several people at one time just makes me wonder why anyone would want to be with him other than materialistic reasons?

I personally think that things like this only cause more problems. I really don't care who you are and what you THINK you can handle.. if you are in LOVE with someone, jealousy is a natural emotion to feel when things like threesomes come up. I can not IMAGINE Jason going out on a date with someone else, much less sleeping with them, and it has NOTHING to do with me being insecure. It's just the fact that I don't want to share. I want to feel special, like his one and only, like the only woman he loves and puts on a pedestal.

[ash]

IMO this is RIDICULOUS! i could never be happy to share my man. I love him and he loves me and I think someone else for him in the mix would just throw it all off course. I mean, if your relationship's health depends on a third party then maybe you just should have that relationship at all.

hugh hefner grosses me out

[Callie]

Joey and I were just talking about this last night. We were watching The Girls NExt Door and I asked him what was up with those women. I mean in recent interviews Hef has said that he would like to marry and have children with Holly (the head girlfriend) but if that was the case then why does he need the other two women? And how would you feel if you were in the other two's situation? I personally think that it is weird. I guess the answer to your question is Hell No!!!

[Chevy_Gurl]

To each is their own I guess. I wouldn't be able to share my DH but that's me. If Hef is enjoying his life like that or any other man out there then more power to the girls who can put up with it and enjoy it. We are the only mammals on earth that impose monogomy in our lives and not everyone can live that life style.

[Rach]

I agree with Michelle- to each their own. I won't judge, but I do think it's just ridiculous.

I think society is becoming WAY too "excuse" oriented. Everything has an excuse and explanation!! What happened to old fashioned "just ain't right" days? Sure, we're advancing in technology and what not, but that doesn't mean the morals of before need to go down the ****ter too. Maybe I'm just old fashioned when it comes to these things.

[mara_jade81]

i agree that this sort of thinking causes more problems and that yes everyone has an excuse. i think that people just have no sense of responsibility anymore. it's always something else's fault, someone else's fault and why should i be responsible for anything? relationships like this are just more of the same thinking. they don't want to be a responsible adult and have committments in a relationship. they just want to gratify themselves.

[Kaymara]

It boils down to "different strokes for different folks" to me I think.

Would I ever do it? No. In my relationship I don't share. The thought of ROd with someone else makes me sick. If he wanted to have other women then he shouldn't of married me. But then again there are those that actually like it. And to them it is exciting and something that turns them on. So to each their own. Just like I dont mind watching porn and it can be a turn on for me... and others think it is disgusting. Or I dont mind vibrators and others think it is disgusting. To some people they get turned on by that. So I say whatever floats your boat. But for me in my marriage that is a big no.

[KevzQueen]

I saw that show last week sometime. I don't think I'd be able to do something like that. I would be too scared to catch a disease. The girl did seem jealous. I wonder if he really loves all 3 of them.