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    My Ex Naval Officer Suffering From PTSD

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    Let me start off by saying hello....My name is Mary....my fiances name is Martin....i am 28 years old...my fiance is 39.

    I do not know much about his overseas experience as he does not like to talk about it, but i do know that whatever happened over there was traumatic enough for him to go from Happy one second....to a complete mess the next...anger, crying....etc.

    We have been together a year and a half now...and i no longer know what to do. My relationship has practocally fallen apart.....and its because he says i do not understand him and why he is the way he is. This is my last and final hope in order to save the man i love....from himself.
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    Only question I have is whether he is getting treatment from a professional.
    If not, walk away. If he is not trying, why should you? Or in other words, if he does not want to help himself, all your understanding doesn't. After.
    I understand why my friend is an alcoholic. But if he won't get treatment, it doesn't matter whether I understand, because he is still going to drink.
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    Only question I have is whether he is getting treatment from a professional.
    If not, walk away. If he is not trying, why should you? Or in other words, if he does not want to help himself, all your understanding doesn't. After.
    I understand why my friend is an alcoholic. But if he won't get treatment, it doesn't matter whether I understand, because he is still going to drink.
    This. There's really not much else to say. It's okay for him to be sick and struggle, but when that sickness is causing significant problems and he refuses to get treated for it, all you can do is walk away so that his illness doesn't hurt you, too. You don't enable an alcoholic by not forcing upon him the consequences of his decisions, and you don't enable someone with PTSD, either. Leaving him protects you, and maybe--just maybe--it will help him see just how serious his disease is and cause him to get the treatment he needs.
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