Need some advice

[manlynavywife]

My wife and i are both in the navy, i am in the nuke pipeline in Charleston, sc and she is an AG currently on deploy with the USS NIMITZ. We met in high school, started dating senior year, but had already signed the papers to join the navy when we got serious. We thought we could make it through all of this, we got married back in May, then she went out with the Nimitz, but just about a month ago, she started talking about divorce, and that she believes all i want to do is turn her into a housewife, then when i told her that we needed to wait till she was off of her first deploy to be sure... then she tells me that she has fallen in love with this guy she has been hanging out with, who everyone said she would cheat on me with... she hasnt done anything physically, but emotionally she has replaced me, and when i tell her that i still love her, she only responds negatively, telling me she wishes that i hated her. Then last week i got a call from her in port, i had told her that she shouldnt hang around him if she wants this to be about us, but she is still trying to be "just friends" with him, and i got her upset when i asked if she thought it was right to love him and if she knew why it had happened and if she wanted to at least try to make this about us and not him, now she has said she will not talk to me for 2 months...
oh she is E-2, he is E-5 in a different division, is 6 years older than her, and instead of being a friend, he offered a MARRIED woman a joint lease to his apartment, "he just wanted to be friends"... yeah really... you know even if my wife and i are not meant to be, i just dont want her hurt by this d*kface, i mean what kind of a friend ruins your marriage? i just dont know what to do... just lost... need some advice

[Truegrits81]

The whole situation sounds awful. She's not making you or your marriage a priority.

If she is determined to be with this ****face, the least she could do is wait until you two have a had a chance to speak face to face about everything. It seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too and that is not fair to you.

[joshsbeautiful]

I'm sorry you had to come to MSOS on such terms. I hope you can find what you are looking for here. There are some amazing women and men on this site.

I'm going to this up so maybe you can get some advice.

[*MarineBug*]

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. I wish I had some advice for you but I just cant think of any. You seem like a very caring, knowledgeable person and its unfortunate that she has decided to betray you and your vows. I wish you the best though