New, Nervous, and Needing Advice

[StaceyB]

New- Hello, my name is Stacey and I live in beautiful Colorado. I am a single-sahm of a 4yo daughter and 2yo son. I am blessed to have a job working from home, so I am always at the computer (at least it feels that way).

Nervous- About six months ago I started dating my DB who has been in the Air Force for 12 years now. Things are going great between us and I am confiedent we have a long future ahead of us, since he has considered us in some big decisions. He has been stationed here for almost five years and is due to PCS. To try to keep our relationship moving forward without rushing into anything he put in a request for stateside orders, but now it is a matter of sitting and waiting. (I hate to wait!!!) I am praying that he gets orders to someplace close, to make a transition easier. I talked to my ex about the possibility of moving out of state or even the country with the kids prior to getting serious about my DB. He told me at the time that we would work everything out and he would not stand in the way of my happiness (good of him). I do worry that my ex will change his mind, but right now I just want to focus on our first step.

Needing Advice- My DB says that Military life is different and questions if I can do it. We were at a party recently and he was trying to get one gal to tell me all the horrible parts of being married to the military. Since I would be making these adjustments with two kids, any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you,

Stacey

[LoveKiss]

My advice is to stick around here. There are plenty of seasoned SOs who can share their thoughts and wisdom, and lots of newer SOs who are in the same boat as you. Read, ask questions, and be open to good advice.

[Marinesbabygirl9]

Welcome to the site.

It is different..there is alot more to being a military girlfriend/fiance/wife then just being a regular one. You have to be very strong, understanding, and willing to work through any situation. I am engaged to a US Marine, I can't exactly tell you what it will be like if you and your DB get married or anything. But there will be a chance that your DB will have to go away from home for awhile, and you will need to be able to handle that and not completely freak. lol I have seen it happen.

I think the most important thing is to be strong through any situation, and to be understanding of things with the Military.

Hope it helped. [(I'm bad at this kind of advice sometimes. sorry.)]

[Amanda801]

to MSOS! I'm Amanda I dont have alot of advice because I dont have children. But you have come to the right place for advice and support. My df is in the marines and we are currentlty in an ldr. You can pm me anytime and I will help you as best as I can.

[Amberlyn]

I dont think its a huge transition.. I mean yes.. it at times is hard.. but so is being a single mother.. I think the biggest transition is going to be letting someone share your childrens lives... (I say this as I went from single mother, to AF wife myself)..
Deployments are hard.. Im emotionally drained all the time.. from keeping up with the house, 3 kids, trying to have "me" time, and missing my husband tremendously. Moving the kids around often is hard on me and them... but we all adjust..
Thats the biggest thing.. you HAVE to be able and willing to adjust..
Can he not put in for the same base he is at? They can do that occasionally depending on career field....?

[ARMEWIFE09]

[StaceyB]

Thank you all! I know that the best thing I can do is take it all one day at a time, but I am the plan ahead type.

[*~USAFGF~*]

my name is kristin and my DB is in the Air force too, so if you would like to talk just PM me . Would love to talk.

[okasional.kajun]

hey welcome to msos!

[Beckah]

Welcome!