newbie, and still in shock/crying - Newbies

beachk · 06-01-2009, 03:36 PM

hey ladies, just found this site and thought i'd say hi...

i just found out the bf is deploying in a few months and i guess i'm still in shock, i can't stop crying

we've only been dating a few months so my friends are kind of just like, whatever it's only been a few months you'll be fine when he is gone.. but i just don't believe it, i don't know what i am going to do without him. i can't even stand not seeing him for a few days, so many months is going to be horrible.

anyway, i guess it's good to know you guys are out there going through the same things...i feel like my friends just don't understand at all and think i'm pathetic for being so upset. any advice on how to get over the initial shock and stop the crying?

Rei · 06-01-2009, 03:37 PM

You'll find a lot of people who understand your situation here. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.

amalphiea · 06-01-2009, 04:30 PM

You'll find lots of help and support here.

usmc_love22 · 06-01-2009, 04:48 PM

I just finished a seven month deployment myself and I felt the exact same way you did when my DB deployed. PM me if you need anything. This site is great!

louisa85 · 06-01-2009, 04:53 PM

Brea · 06-01-2009, 04:58 PM

Hi and welcome. You will be fine, I promise. Just keep really busy and keep in touch with him the best you can. We have ALL been through it. Enjoy the time you have with him now and dont use the time to just sit around and cry.

benny09 · 06-01-2009, 04:59 PM

Hang in there and stay strong! This site will help you so much..PM me if you need someone to talk to

Nikolle · 06-01-2009, 05:00 PM

adriana · 06-01-2009, 05:03 PM

Hi. I am new too and getting used to all this. My DB has been gone about 3 weeks into a 7 month deployment. Finding this site has been a lifesaver. I don't feel as lonely as I did in the beginning. It is one day at a time when he leaves and ALOT of prayer works!!!

Steff Bo Beff · 06-01-2009, 05:05 PM

06-01-2009, 03:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
beachk i hate iraq Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,175 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 12%	newbie, and still in shock/crying hey ladies, just found this site and thought i'd say hi... i just found out the bf is deploying in a few months and i guess i'm still in shock, i can't stop crying we've only been dating a few months so my friends are kind of just like, whatever it's only been a few months you'll be fine when he is gone.. but i just don't believe it, i don't know what i am going to do without him. i can't even stand not seeing him for a few days, so many months is going to be horrible. anyway, i guess it's good to know you guys are out there going through the same things...i feel like my friends just don't understand at all and think i'm pathetic for being so upset. any advice on how to get over the initial shock and stop the crying?

06-01-2009, 04:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
amalphiea I aim to misbehave Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: I'm in Baltimore MD, he's all the way on the other side of the continent. Posts: 1,823 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 2% Longevity: 37%	You'll find lots of help and support here. __________________

06-01-2009, 04:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
usmc_love22 Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 162 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 13%	I just finished a seven month deployment myself and I felt the exact same way you did when my DB deployed. PM me if you need anything. This site is great! __________________ "Some things in life are just so sweet--and sweet is really not strong enough--I mean, so soothing and delicious that sometimes the memory of them is all you need to get by. You can just close your eyes and put yourself there in an instant. Your mouth waters, your eyes tear up, your heart beats fast, and it's hard to catch your breath."--Sweet Potato Queens' Book of Love

06-01-2009, 04:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
louisa85 Instigator Extraordinaire Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 8,681 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 82% Longevity: 18%	__________________ Keep on keeping on.

06-01-2009, 04:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
benny09 Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: LDR Posts: 761 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 37% Longevity: 13%	Hang in there and stay strong! This site will help you so much..PM me if you need someone to talk to __________________ Preparing for deployment #2

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06-01-2009, 03:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
Rei Chhyeah! Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 4,995 Classifieds: (4) Activity: 0% Longevity: 13%	You'll find a lot of people who understand your situation here. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.

06-01-2009, 04:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
Brea I Love My Puppy Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 693 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 14%	Hi and welcome. You will be fine, I promise. Just keep really busy and keep in touch with him the best you can. We have ALL been through it. Enjoy the time you have with him now and dont use the time to just sit around and cry.

06-01-2009, 05:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
Nikolle Damage Control Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: NC Posts: 2,282 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 1% Longevity: 15%	__________________ Embrace those who love you and whom you love, and rid yourself of those who will only bring you down!

06-01-2009, 05:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
adriana Junior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Temecula, Ca/Camp Pendleton, Ca Posts: 19 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 13%	Hi. I am new too and getting used to all this. My DB has been gone about 3 weeks into a 7 month deployment. Finding this site has been a lifesaver. I don't feel as lonely as I did in the beginning. It is one day at a time when he leaves and ALOT of prayer works!!!

06-01-2009, 05:05 PM	#10 (permalink)
Steff Bo Beff Account Closed Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 7,796 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 18%