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Sybilla · 08-11-2008, 07:17 PM

Hey everyone, just wanted to introduce myself. I'm from Western Pennsylvania I'm 22 years old and I've been with my Army boy for 2 and a half years. He is being sent to SRP on September 19 and will be deploying to Iraq at the beginning of the year. I knew there was the possibility when we got together that this could happen but him being in the National Guard its so easy to forget 3 out of 4 weeks a month that he is in fact a soldier. I remember in the beginning that one weekend a month would scare me so much that I would not be able to function while he was away for fear of him getting the "bad news".

2 years went by and the bad news never came. About 2 months ago he sat me down and said he got told by his readiness officer that he was on a list. My worst fears were realized then and there. He got his official orders on Saturday and I feel like my life has just been stolen. I have been putting off looking for others in my situation because I stupidly thought I could handle it on my own. However, after anxiety attacks and breakdowns that occur 3-4 times a day and keep me up literally all night I finally realized that I'm not able to deal with this alone. I started going to church again, which helps but when the service ends I feel alone again.

I have been trying so very hard to not cry in front of him because I know that would make it harder for him. As his officer said to us on family night, "The last thing your loved one needs is to be worrying about his loved ones back home, he has a job to do and needs to know for sure that you will be okay so he can focus on keeping himself alive." I was doing alright until just now. I broke down in anger and tears in front of him before he left to go out and I feel just terrible about it.

I noticed most of the others in this forums don't give this much information in their introductions, but I'm so very desperate for kind and loving words and I wanted to get it all out there now. So yeah, I apologize for the wall of text but I hope to hear from some of you soon.

Best wishes and love to all of you who have to/have been dealing with this longer than I have.

Sybilla

Germanchick · 08-11-2008, 07:32 PM

and welcome to SOS! No need to apologize for anything. We'll be here for you when you need us. Let us know how we can help you

Blessed Ohana · 08-11-2008, 08:18 PM

welcome! you'll find lots of support here!

867-5309 · 08-11-2008, 08:35 PM

Welcome to SOS!

Gillian_Angela · 08-11-2008, 08:36 PM

Welcome to SOS. I'm gillian, I live in the state next to you and my boyfriend is also in the Army.

~~BJo~~ · 08-11-2008, 09:01 PM

We are so happy to have you on SOS! If you need anything let me know!

Chelsea. · 08-11-2008, 09:02 PM

welcome!

amalphiea · 08-11-2008, 09:22 PM

Sybilla · 08-12-2008, 08:58 AM

Thank you so much for the warm welcomes. My visits will be often however my posts may be sporadic at first until I feel comfortable but I'll definitely be checking the site every day.

Much Love.

LuvnMySoldier · 08-12-2008, 09:09 AM

,

Welcome to sos!

08-11-2008, 07:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sybilla Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 4 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 25%	Hiya Hey everyone, just wanted to introduce myself. I'm from Western Pennsylvania I'm 22 years old and I've been with my Army boy for 2 and a half years. He is being sent to SRP on September 19 and will be deploying to Iraq at the beginning of the year. I knew there was the possibility when we got together that this could happen but him being in the National Guard its so easy to forget 3 out of 4 weeks a month that he is in fact a soldier. I remember in the beginning that one weekend a month would scare me so much that I would not be able to function while he was away for fear of him getting the "bad news". 2 years went by and the bad news never came. About 2 months ago he sat me down and said he got told by his readiness officer that he was on a list. My worst fears were realized then and there. He got his official orders on Saturday and I feel like my life has just been stolen. I have been putting off looking for others in my situation because I stupidly thought I could handle it on my own. However, after anxiety attacks and breakdowns that occur 3-4 times a day and keep me up literally all night I finally realized that I'm not able to deal with this alone. I started going to church again, which helps but when the service ends I feel alone again. I have been trying so very hard to not cry in front of him because I know that would make it harder for him. As his officer said to us on family night, "The last thing your loved one needs is to be worrying about his loved ones back home, he has a job to do and needs to know for sure that you will be okay so he can focus on keeping himself alive." I was doing alright until just now. I broke down in anger and tears in front of him before he left to go out and I feel just terrible about it. I noticed most of the others in this forums don't give this much information in their introductions, but I'm so very desperate for kind and loving words and I wanted to get it all out there now. So yeah, I apologize for the wall of text but I hope to hear from some of you soon. Best wishes and love to all of you who have to/have been dealing with this longer than I have. Sybilla

08-11-2008, 07:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
Germanchick Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 36,788 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 1% Longevity: 94%	and welcome to SOS! No need to apologize for anything. We'll be here for you when you need us. Let us know how we can help you __________________ An unconditional right to say what one pleases about public affairs is what I consider to be the minimum guarantee of the First Amendment.

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08-11-2008, 08:18 PM	#3 (permalink)
Blessed Ohana Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12,369 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 10% Longevity: 32%	welcome! you'll find lots of support here!

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Gillian_Angela Account Closed Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 11,772 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 2% Longevity: 40%	Welcome to SOS. I'm gillian, I live in the state next to you and my boyfriend is also in the Army.

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~~BJo~~ Banned Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,358 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	We are so happy to have you on SOS! If you need anything let me know!

08-12-2008, 08:58 AM	#9 (permalink)
Sybilla Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 4 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 25%	Thank you so much for the warm welcomes. My visits will be often however my posts may be sporadic at first until I feel comfortable but I'll definitely be checking the site every day. Much Love.

08-12-2008, 09:09 AM	#10 (permalink)
LuvnMySoldier Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 4,761 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	, Welcome to sos! __________________