breast milk conflict - New Moms

toothfairy03 · 06-19-2007, 12:26 AM

I was talking to my sister *who is a 1st time mom of a 16month old* and we were talking about when I have a baby. She was saying that I was wrong for only wanting to use a breast pump then bottle feed it to my baby. That way I wont be having the baby on the boob all day long. Yet the baby will get the nutrients of breast milk. I plan on working after I do have a baby. It will be easier for others to feed him/her once I start working again. What do you all think?

A baby is far away from now but its always good to think of options.

Casey · 06-19-2007, 12:28 AM

I agree with what you want to do. I wanted Ellie to get my milk, but she was a horrible nurser (it took her 45 mins AT LEAST!) So, I ended up pumping and just feeding it to her in a bottle. Also, Toby felt left out and I wanted him to be able to bond with her too.

~~GlitterCrotch~~ · 06-19-2007, 12:31 AM

It makes no difference whether you pump exclusively or have him/her on the breast. The important thing is that your baby is being fed, right? In 12 months (after he/she is born) it won't make a lick of difference if it was formula or breastmilk either, let alone pumped or on the breast.

toothfairy03 · 06-19-2007, 12:33 AM

She kept going on and on about how its bonding and don't be like the other moms and quit and do formula. I was scared that I was gonna be a bad mom for it. DH says its sweet that I think of this stuff cause I asked him what he thought.

Casey · 06-19-2007, 12:37 AM

Honey you wont be a bad mom for not bfing and dont let anything make you think that way! Ellie has been on formula exclusively since she was 3 weeks old and she is thriving! What little breastmilk I did give I am still proud of, so if pumping is the way for you, then go for it!! Either way, you are the mommy and you make the decisions, and no one should influence you otherwise!

CoffeeGirl · 06-19-2007, 12:38 AM

I think the baby benefits either way so whatever you choose is good for you- its not for your sister to choose for you sweety-good luck

Casey · 06-19-2007, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by CoffeeGirl

I think the baby benefits either way so whatever you choose is good for you- its not for your sister to choose for you sweety-good luck

agreed

toothfairy03 · 06-19-2007, 12:42 AM

Thanks ladies. I guess my sister is gonna act like that cause she has been through this already.

*tina* · 06-19-2007, 06:15 AM

The only thing I want to caution is...some people don't have as good of let down on the pump as the breast, so you may have to pump twice as much as you would normally feed baby to keep your supply up. But Breastmilk is best!

Traci · 06-19-2007, 06:34 AM

I didn't BF by choice. It was just something I didn't want to do. I understand that their is a special type of bond when you BF but IMO I felt I had a bond also with my kids during feedings. JMO

06-19-2007, 12:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
toothfairy03 Missing My Riverine! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Virginia Beach and looking to go to Great Lakes, Coronado, or Hawaii! Posts: 1,006 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 61%	breast milk conflict I was talking to my sister who is a 1st time mom of a 16month old and we were talking about when I have a baby. She was saying that I was wrong for only wanting to use a breast pump then bottle feed it to my baby. That way I wont be having the baby on the boob all day long. Yet the baby will get the nutrients of breast milk. I plan on working after I do have a baby. It will be easier for others to feed him/her once I start working again. What do you all think? A baby is far away from now but its always good to think of options. __________________ I've Replaced and with some hardcore

06-19-2007, 12:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
Casey trying to keep my head above water.... Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 4,714 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 52%	I agree with what you want to do. I wanted Ellie to get my milk, but she was a horrible nurser (it took her 45 mins AT LEAST!) So, I ended up pumping and just feeding it to her in a bottle. Also, Toby felt left out and I wanted him to be able to bond with her too. __________________ Wife to my Navy Vet Toby (11/4/04) Mommy to my Buggah Butt Elizabeth (11/20/06) Thanks Brentscrystal! I it!

06-19-2007, 12:33 AM	#4 (permalink)
toothfairy03 Missing My Riverine! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Virginia Beach and looking to go to Great Lakes, Coronado, or Hawaii! Posts: 1,006 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 61%	She kept going on and on about how its bonding and don't be like the other moms and quit and do formula. I was scared that I was gonna be a bad mom for it. DH says its sweet that I think of this stuff cause I asked him what he thought. __________________ I've Replaced and with some hardcore

06-19-2007, 12:37 AM	#5 (permalink)
Casey trying to keep my head above water.... Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 4,714 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 52%	Honey you wont be a bad mom for not bfing and dont let anything make you think that way! Ellie has been on formula exclusively since she was 3 weeks old and she is thriving! What little breastmilk I did give I am still proud of, so if pumping is the way for you, then go for it!! Either way, you are the mommy and you make the decisions, and no one should influence you otherwise! __________________ Wife to my Navy Vet Toby (11/4/04) Mommy to my Buggah Butt Elizabeth (11/20/06) Thanks Brentscrystal! I it!

06-19-2007, 12:38 AM	#6 (permalink)
CoffeeGirl Java Queen Extraordinaire Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Arizona Posts: 56,461 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 20% Longevity: 82%	I think the baby benefits either way so whatever you choose is good for you- its not for your sister to choose for you sweety-good luck __________________ When my time comes, forget the wrong that I've done, help me leave behind some reasons to be missed. Don't resent me when your feeling empty,Keep me in your memory, leave out all the rest leave out all the rest

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06-19-2007, 12:31 AM	#3 (permalink)
~~GlitterCrotch~~ Banned Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 18,873 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 0% Longevity: 44%	It makes no difference whether you pump exclusively or have him/her on the breast. The important thing is that your baby is being fed, right? In 12 months (after he/she is born) it won't make a lick of difference if it was formula or breastmilk either, let alone pumped or on the breast.

06-19-2007, 12:42 AM	#8 (permalink)
toothfairy03 Missing My Riverine! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Virginia Beach and looking to go to Great Lakes, Coronado, or Hawaii! Posts: 1,006 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 61%	Thanks ladies. I guess my sister is gonna act like that cause she has been through this already. __________________ I've Replaced and with some hardcore

06-19-2007, 06:15 AM	#9 (permalink)
tina Put the alphabet in order... Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Under a shady tree.... Posts: 1,965 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 48% Longevity: 49%	The only thing I want to caution is...some people don't have as good of let down on the pump as the breast, so you may have to pump twice as much as you would normally feed baby to keep your supply up. But Breastmilk is best! __________________

06-19-2007, 06:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
Traci IYAOYAS Join Date: May 2006 Location: Moyock, NC Posts: 13,628 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 0% Longevity: 59%	I didn't BF by choice. It was just something I didn't want to do. I understand that their is a special type of bond when you BF but IMO I felt I had a bond also with my kids during feedings. JMO __________________