husbands and breastfeeding - New Moms

harrisonsdream · 04-19-2007, 12:49 PM

i'm concerned about having dh feeling left out if i'm the one doing all the feeding, because i am hoping to exclusively BF. how did you involve them?

~~Bex~~ · 04-19-2007, 12:51 PM

i won't "exclusively" bf... she'll get "exclusive" breast milk... but i do plan to pump so that jason gets to bond that way with her.

to me, i feel it would be a bit selfish of me to deny that time he could share with her.

then again, i'm not "planning" on doing anything for 100% yet... i've learned that with "plans" and babies, things don't necessarily happen as you "plan"

Jill · 04-19-2007, 12:52 PM

He would get Trent for me, I would feed, and dh would change his diaper and put him back to bed. There are plenty of other things that daddys can do.

Kat · 04-19-2007, 12:52 PM

There are many other ways he can connect with the baby. Like after you are done feeding, he can burp and rock. Or he can be the one to bathe. Or just plain and simple spend one on one time.
Unless you pump, there is really gonna be no way he is going to a part of the feeding. He can sit next to you, and talk to the baby, but sometimes the baby will be more interested in dad if he does that than eating

harrisonsdream · 04-19-2007, 12:52 PM

see that was my concern that he'd feel left out and lose alot of that bonding time esp. since he'll be gone for months at a time and whatnot kwim?

Brandi · 04-19-2007, 12:53 PM

Jason never really fed any of them anyhow, even after I stopped BFing

So, it was never an issue. He helped with other things, like changing diapers and rocking to sleep, but feeding wasn't really something he did very often...

~~Bex~~ · 04-19-2007, 12:54 PM

you can still PUMP and have your kid have exclusive breastmilk... you would just do most of the feedings.

harrisonsdream · 04-19-2007, 12:54 PM

i know i will have to probably pump at some point because i will be going to school at least 1 night a week

~~Bex~~ · 04-19-2007, 12:55 PM

maybe that night can be his "special" night with the baby
and the rest of the time you bf?

04-19-2007, 12:56 PM

I didn't have an issue with pumping a few bottles for DH to feed her. I didn't want her to dependant on ME for feeding. But even when I was nursing dh would sit with us.

04-19-2007, 12:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,170 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	husbands and breastfeeding i'm concerned about having dh feeling left out if i'm the one doing all the feeding, because i am hoping to exclusively BF. how did you involve them?

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Kat stand barefooted in my own front yard with a baby on my hip Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: San Diego Posts: 13,627 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 3% Longevity: 98%	There are many other ways he can connect with the baby. Like after you are done feeding, he can burp and rock. Or he can be the one to bathe. Or just plain and simple spend one on one time. Unless you pump, there is really gonna be no way he is going to a part of the feeding. He can sit next to you, and talk to the baby, but sometimes the baby will be more interested in dad if he does that than eating __________________

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Brandi “If you want the last word, apologize.” Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 39,594 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 20% Longevity: 99%	Jason never really fed any of them anyhow, even after I stopped BFing So, it was never an issue. He helped with other things, like changing diapers and rocking to sleep, but feeding wasn't really something he did very often... __________________

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04-19-2007, 12:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~Bex~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 30,189 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	i won't "exclusively" bf... she'll get "exclusive" breast milk... but i do plan to pump so that jason gets to bond that way with her. to me, i feel it would be a bit selfish of me to deny that time he could share with her. then again, i'm not "planning" on doing anything for 100% yet... i've learned that with "plans" and babies, things don't necessarily happen as you "plan"

04-19-2007, 12:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jill It must be nice to live in your world Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 6,086 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 87%	He would get Trent for me, I would feed, and dh would change his diaper and put him back to bed. There are plenty of other things that daddys can do.

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harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,170 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	see that was my concern that he'd feel left out and lose alot of that bonding time esp. since he'll be gone for months at a time and whatnot kwim?

04-19-2007, 12:54 PM	#7 (permalink)
~~Bex~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 30,189 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	you can still PUMP and have your kid have exclusive breastmilk... you would just do most of the feedings.

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harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,170 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	i know i will have to probably pump at some point because i will be going to school at least 1 night a week

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~~Bex~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 30,189 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	maybe that night can be his "special" night with the baby and the rest of the time you bf?

04-19-2007, 12:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
bunkie Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	I didn't have an issue with pumping a few bottles for DH to feed her. I didn't want her to dependant on ME for feeding. But even when I was nursing dh would sit with us.