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    Separation anxiety?

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    For a couple of weeks now, Cameron FREAKS out when I leave the room. You would think that the world is ending. He could be happy as a clam, and then I get up to go to the bathroom and he starts screaming, twisting to keep me in view, and reaching for me. Once I come back into his view, he is okay. Is this separation anxiety or him just being a stinker?
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    It sounds like some separation anxiety to me. Best way to try to break it is to take a few hours a week away from him.


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    I'm totally this. Ada's got severe separation anxiety. Breaks my heart!

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    I can't. DH is working two jobs, and we don't have the money for a sitter. The longest amount of time I've spent away from him is 5 hours, and that's only happened twice. Classes start up on the 22nd, and MIL will be here by that point so hopefully that helps.
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    Object permanence could the culprit as well. To him, when he can't see you, you don't exist. That's scary for kiddos.
    Put on your big girl panties and deal with it like a boss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luz*de*su*Vida View Post
    Object permanence could the culprit as well. To him, when he can't see you, you don't exist. That's scary for kiddos.


    I think that's about right for his age, and then when he's a bit older the "real" separation anxiety/stranger danger will kick in

    IMO, the best thing you can do is to continue to meet his needs to show him you will be there for him consistantly...that will give him the self-confidence to venture out on his own eventually He will probably love having some time with your MIL as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luz*de*su*Vida View Post
    Object permanence could the culprit as well. To him, when he can't see you, you don't exist. That's scary for kiddos.
    ETA: Games like "Peek-a-Boo" and starting to "hide" his toys with a blanket and then magically making them reappear may help too. Just keep at it. Try talking to him from the other room too, or somewhere that he can't see you.
    Put on your big girl panties and deal with it like a boss.

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    I had the same problem with Landon around that age and didn't have anyone to watch him so he could get used to me not being around. He ended up outgrowing it for the most part. Now he only freaks out when I leave if he's tired, hungry, or hurt


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    Quote Originally Posted by Luz*de*su*Vida View Post
    Object permanence could the culprit as well. To him, when he can't see you, you don't exist. That's scary for kiddos.
    Well that's what I use when I put him down for naps. He started fighting them hardcore recently because he would watch me walk out of his room, so I started ducking below his crib when he wasn't looking, and then I will crawl out of his room. If I do that, he's perfectly fine and goes to sleep.

    Babies are so complicated.
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    At 5 months the culprit is most likely object permanence.

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