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    We are starting the process of interviewing the sitters who I've prescreened on the sitter websites and think are good fits. The first comes tomorrow. I'm excited that we'll be finding a sitter in the near future who will be able to watch Wyatt while I work out/go to craft classes/etc.

    DH, however, is a complete WRECK over the aspect of leaving Wyatt with someone. I'm a sitter and was a nanny for a couple years so we're looking for someone with similarities to my sitting style. We're not in any rush but I don't want to leave this until DH goes underway and I really need someone to watch Wyatt for a couple hours.

    DH is just totally stressing himself out and scared that we're going to hire an ax murderer or someone to that effect. I really don't know what else to say to reassure him that we're going to scrutinize these girls and make the right choice for us. We also have already seen their - clean - background checks off of the sitter databases that we use. Plus, who ever we DO decide to hire, will undergo a 'trial period' where they'll come over while I'm home so I can clean and then another time for just an hour or so jsut to make sure Wyatt clicks with her.

    Does anyone else have a DH who was like this and how did you make him comfortable with this? I love being a SAHM but I know that I need little breaks here and there, as well.
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    Both DH and I were like your DH. We never got over it. End result: DD never had a non-family member watch her until she was around 4 and could tell us if something happened to her. Even then, she was watched in a small group of her friends so she wasn't alone with the sitter. And we grilled her (DD) after each time she was watched to make sure she was treated well. I did not get much alone time, and virtually none when DH was gone. She was watched by a family member like 2 or 3 times each year, and that was it.

    Would he feel better if you guys had a (or a few) Nanny cam? You could check it after you got home or get one (or more to cover more of the house) that transmits live video like a security system. Our video monitor we got for this baby can be wirelessly connected to our computer and then transmit the video to whatever devices we want to use to check in on her (our phones, laptop, etc).

    And no, I didn't have it when you watched DD so we weren't spying/checking in on you with her. DD still says how nice you were to her and asks if you could watch her more. She was really sad when I told her you're moving.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PrincessBlue505 View Post
    Both DH and I were like your DH. We never got over it. End result: DD never had a non-family member watch her until she was around 4 and could tell us if something happened to her. Even then, she was watched in a small group of her friends so she wasn't alone with the sitter. And we grilled her (DD) after each time she was watched to make sure she was treated well. I did not get much alone time, and virtually none when DH was gone. She was watched by a family member like 2 or 3 times each year, and that was it.

    Would he feel better if you guys had a (or a few) Nanny cam? You could check it after you got home or get one (or more to cover more of the house) that transmits live video like a security system. Our video monitor we got for this baby can be wirelessly connected to our computer and then transmit the video to whatever devices we want to use to check in on her (our phones, laptop, etc).

    And no, I didn't have it when you watched DD so we weren't spying/checking in on you with her. DD still says how nice you were to her and asks if you could watch her more. She was really sad when I told her you're moving.
    I'm glad she likes me - she's a great little girl It's always nice to hear that. Side note, we have no idea if we're still moving so if you need someone, please ask! She was so fun!

    I wonder if our video monitor will do that I'll have to see if that will calm him down, thanks for the suggestion!
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    Quote Originally Posted by huladangelo View Post
    I'm glad she likes me - she's a great little girl It's always nice to hear that. Side note, we have no idea if we're still moving so if you need someone, please ask! She was so fun!

    I wonder if our video monitor will do that I'll have to see if that will calm him down, thanks for the suggestion!
    That's good to know. We don't use a sitter regularly even now. But we do like to go to the Christmas party every year that she can't come to.

    DH love, love, loves the fact that our monitor does this. I'm not really sure why since we don't go anywhere without the baby, but whatev. I think he was saying it'll be great to be able to have options to check in on the baby (like he could take a look on the comp while using that making it more convenient for him or if I was worried that I couldn't see the baby breathing, instead of making him run upstairs, I could throw the image on the tv to get a bigger/better look).
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    I would tell him, "Honey, I've been a sitter before....am I an ax murderer?" .

    I understand his fear, It took me LOTS of interviews before we found someone I'm comfy with. DH goes with the flow. DD loves our sitter, and I've only used her 2 times in 2 months. She's mainly for date night.

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    I've never been through it, but I definitely understand where your DH is coming from. The thought of leaving Addison with anyone (even family members since she hasn't been around any of them besides a few days here and there) scares the crap out of me. In fact, my cousins girlfriend turns 21 over Thanksgiving when we will be down there and wanted us to go to a casino and celebrate with her... we won't be going because I don't trust anyone with Addison (yes not even my own mother).

    DH and I have decided that I will be a SAHM until he gets out of the military and at that point whoever gets the better job opportunity will go to work and the other will stay with her until she is close to 2. Then we will probably interview a nanny.
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    I'm the picky one, and dh could careless who watches dyl as long as they don't seem like a creeper. so I do all teh screening and such. I actually really like our new sitter for dyl. Its a guy too which I never thought I would have. But dylan just clicked with him and dyl is very selective on what guys he likes. Now on the other hand I won't be leaving rylee with him for a while He just don't seem ready for newborns.
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    Both DH and I are crazy about who watches our kids. We have only had two people who aren't family watch the kids. One was my college roomie and best friend and the other was someone I've known since he was like 5. Even then I get super nervous.

    DH was abused multiple times by babysitters so he never wants to leave them with anyone except family.

    It definitely makes it hard to go out and I would love it if we were able to find someone we can trust to watch the kids other than the few people we have. As a SAHM I think it is so necessary to find those little moments for you and it's great that you are getting a sitter to make sure you get that time. Lots of luck to you during the interview process. I hope you find someone wonderful!

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