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    Still having physical issues from rough delivery 14 months ago

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    I wasn't sure about posting this, but I've been so depressed about it, I just want to know I'm not alone.

    By the way, this is TMI, but it's the only way to explain it.

    I delivered my daughter almost 14 months ago. I have chronic high pressure, so the doc induced me at 39 weeks. (Same thing with my son 21 months before.) Things were going well and very quickly, but the midwife decided to put me on magnesium because of my blood pressure, which made me feel horrible on top of all of the contractions. (My bp was way higher with my son, and they never put me on the stuff.) i got my epidural and after two tries it never took. Then they found out my daughter was trying to come out on her back face first, so they tried to turn her - that didn't work, and while I was in hard labor, the doctors sat and talked about what to do. I pleaded for a c-section but they used forceps instead and I ended up with a 4th degree tear (the worst tear you can have). I ended up back in the hospital a week later because I hemorrhaged due to a piece of placenta being left in the uterus. I almost bled out and needed a blood transfusion (and I'm still on iron). (Thankfully, my daughter had no effects from the delivery.)

    The first 9 months I would get so angry at women who had perfect, easy deliveries, and I still do at times because I've been dealing with this chaos for over a year. Since then I've dealt with rectal incontinence and have seen a colon/rectal specialist, a pelvic floor physical therapist, and the leading gyno. I have found out that I do need surgery, and I'm trying to get it done before we PCS to England in August. Unfortunately I'm not supposed to lift anything for 4-6 weeks after the surgery and with a 3 year old and a 14 month old and no family in the area, it's been interesting figuring out when I'll get it done. I'll be so happy when this is all over!
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    Dang, that is a lot to deal with. I am so sorry that you have had such a tough time.

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    Not to be the downer but if they can't get it down before your pcs I don't think your medical clearance will go through.

    I hope once everything it's fixed it gets better!
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    Sorry that you are having a tough time. I hope things get better for you.



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    First of lots of When I ended up with a c-section I envied a lot of moms with Vaginal deliveries. I'm still trying to get over it 3 years later. I felt like my chance to bring my own child into this world was ruined. I felt helpless and like less of a woman. Your not alone on those feelings. I think a lot of woman have this vision of giving birth their whole life and when it doesn't go as planned and sometimes even worse it's a tough thing mentally to handle.

    I cannot believe they did something like that without taking into consideration the risk of such a horrible tear. Have you thought of filing for a law suit?? With the position of the baby I don't know how they thought that would go smoothly!!??? You shouldn't have to deal with these issues. I hope things start getting better for you and feel free to PM me anytime to talk
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    I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I had a 4th degree tear with my first son that didn't heal properly. So I was on pain meds almost daily for over six months after he was born. 2.5 years later with my second son, I had only a 2nd degree tear, but I was left with a rectocele that according to my doctor will eventually require surgery.

    It seemed like everyone around me had such quick easy recoveries after childbirth, and it pissed me off that I was in so much pain for so long and had to deal with such unpleasant issues. But I've found that my problems are not *that* uncommon, and compared to some things, they really aren't *that* bad... and I have two beautiful amazing boys to show for my pain.

    I hope that you are able to get your surgery and everything works out well for you. If you ever need to chat, PM me.
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    I'm so sorry. I know of a birth trauma forum that might be of some help. You'll find a lot of support from other mamas that had traumatic and difficult births.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MATom View Post
    I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I had a 4th degree tear with my first son that didn't heal properly. So I was on pain meds almost daily for over six months after he was born. 2.5 years later with my second son, I had only a 2nd degree tear, but I was left with a rectocele that according to my doctor will eventually require surgery.

    It seemed like everyone around me had such quick easy recoveries after childbirth, and it pissed me off that I was in so much pain for so long and had to deal with such unpleasant issues. But I've found that my problems are not *that* uncommon, and compared to some things, they really aren't *that* bad... and I have two beautiful amazing boys to show for my pain.

    I hope that you are able to get your surgery and everything works out well for you. If you ever need to chat, PM me.
    Both of my docs said I have a rectocele and both of them said it's not urgent that I get the surgery done, which might be a good thing because with our travel schedule, I don't know when I'll be able to get the surgery done. It's just annoying.

    Whenever I get frustrated or have a bad day of "issues," I just have to remember my wonderful little girl. It does help to know that I'm not the only one out there with these feelings and health problems. Thanks for posting.
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