marriage help..? - Military Moves and Relocation

Nicole1788 · 12-04-2005, 01:39 PM

Alright well i have a few questions about getting married. Just like who were you married by and if it was in a church or not? how you planned it and picked a date. did you need to go to marriage consuling? i cant ask my mom any of this stuff she was never married. any help would be great thanx!!

~~Donna~~ · 12-04-2005, 01:50 PM

we went to the courthouse, got our marraige liscense and were married by a justice of the peace.

Sarah · 12-04-2005, 01:51 PM

We did JOP, but it was very nice. When we renew our vows for our 10 yr anniversary next year, we plan to do it in a church.

galxy8 · 12-04-2005, 02:14 PM

Vegas, Baby!! LOL! Didn't have to go to counseling. Renewed our vows and had a wedding a couple years later. The pastor knew we were married already, and just went through the ceremony as if we weren't.

Planning the wedding was hard, just because the ship's schedule kept changing and it drove me crazy. LOL! I think I changed the date twice and told the place where we were having it that it would probably change. They basically said that they understood, with Troy being in the military and that as long as new dates weren't taken, we could have them. But I think there was no turning back 30 days prior. LOL!

Becca · 12-04-2005, 02:31 PM

One of my good friends married us (he was ordained, so it was legal LOL). And we got married at Manresa Castle in Port Townsend, WA. It was great!

Jackie · 12-04-2005, 02:31 PM

we were married by a judge outside at the same place that we had our reception. it was really nice because we didn't have to go to counseling and it was much more free and flexible to do have everything the way we wanted instead of by the rules of the church. we also told the reception hal that the date may have to be changed and they were fine with it as long as it took place within a year of our scheduled date..luckily everything went smoothly and we had an awesome wedding!

amy24cali · 12-04-2005, 02:35 PM

we were married at the courthouse..no waiting period and the place was actually nicer than i thought..but we are renewing our vows on our 5th anniversary and so i will have my "church" wedding...

Germanchick · 12-04-2005, 04:34 PM

We got married in his hometown church while he was on leave. normally they require 3 weeks (?) of counceling. But since DH's family is very active at that church and we were only there for 2 weeks we only met with the pastor for a couple hours the day before our wedding.

Nicole1788 · 12-04-2005, 04:38 PM

Is it that you only need consuling if its through a church? and what is it for anyway?

NavyFiance08 · 12-04-2005, 06:41 PM

Each State has their own laws for Marriage. In Florida you have to attend a "premarital course" in order to get your marriage license without a waiting period. It also saves you about $30 on the license itself, but you pay that $30 for the course, so you come out about even. If you don't take the course then there is a 3 day waiting period. Not sure what state your in, but usually you can find the laws online for your state. Hope this helps! Good Luck!

12-04-2005, 01:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
Nicole1788 Trying to Break Free Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Out of hell soon! Posts: 5,097 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	marriage help..? Alright well i have a few questions about getting married. Just like who were you married by and if it was in a church or not? how you planned it and picked a date. did you need to go to marriage consuling? i cant ask my mom any of this stuff she was never married. any help would be great thanx!!

12-04-2005, 02:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
galxy8 So glad to be able to eat at Arby's again! LOL! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Oklahoma City, OK/Tinker AFB Posts: 1,771 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	Vegas, Baby!! LOL! Didn't have to go to counseling. Renewed our vows and had a wedding a couple years later. The pastor knew we were married already, and just went through the ceremony as if we weren't. Planning the wedding was hard, just because the ship's schedule kept changing and it drove me crazy. LOL! I think I changed the date twice and told the place where we were having it that it would probably change. They basically said that they understood, with Troy being in the military and that as long as new dates weren't taken, we could have them. But I think there was no turning back 30 days prior. LOL! __________________ Dracula Tour to Transylvania Tour Report (We won the "Best Overall" in the Costume Contest as the"Un-Dead Pirates.") View Our Dracula Tour Pics Here

12-04-2005, 04:38 PM	#9 (permalink)
Nicole1788 Trying to Break Free Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Out of hell soon! Posts: 5,097 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	Is it that you only need consuling if its through a church? and what is it for anyway? __________________ Ive been ***** slapped

12-04-2005, 06:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
NavyFiance08 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 538 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	Marriage License Laws Each State has their own laws for Marriage. In Florida you have to attend a "premarital course" in order to get your marriage license without a waiting period. It also saves you about $30 on the license itself, but you pay that $30 for the course, so you come out about even. If you don't take the course then there is a 3 day waiting period. Not sure what state your in, but usually you can find the laws online for your state. Hope this helps! Good Luck! __________________ Brittany http://www.myspace.com/brit2504 <a href="http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> <img border="0" src="http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10726;128/st/20051128/e/DF+left/k/ed4a/event.png"></a>

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12-04-2005, 01:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~Donna~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: New Orleans Posts: 16,885 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	we went to the courthouse, got our marraige liscense and were married by a justice of the peace.

12-04-2005, 01:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
Sarah I'm too cool for words Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Camp Lejeune, NC Posts: 18,586 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 94%	We did JOP, but it was very nice. When we renew our vows for our 10 yr anniversary next year, we plan to do it in a church.

12-04-2005, 02:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jackie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: NAS Jax, FL Posts: 215 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	we were married by a judge outside at the same place that we had our reception. it was really nice because we didn't have to go to counseling and it was much more free and flexible to do have everything the way we wanted instead of by the rules of the church. we also told the reception hal that the date may have to be changed and they were fine with it as long as it took place within a year of our scheduled date..luckily everything went smoothly and we had an awesome wedding!

12-04-2005, 02:35 PM	#7 (permalink)
amy24cali Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Port Orchard, WA Posts: 2,569 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 5% Longevity: 79%	we were married at the courthouse..no waiting period and the place was actually nicer than i thought..but we are renewing our vows on our 5th anniversary and so i will have my "church" wedding...

12-04-2005, 04:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
Germanchick MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 36,617 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 49% Longevity: 94%	We got married in his hometown church while he was on leave. normally they require 3 weeks (?) of counceling. But since DH's family is very active at that church and we were only there for 2 weeks we only met with the pastor for a couple hours the day before our wedding.