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    Me and my db are deciding on when to get married. We want to get married before hes deployed which if so we would only be married for a month before that happens. His main concern is that I would have to move on base and be there while he is gone for a year which is a problem. I would be there not knowing a soul. & going through his deployement without having anyone there. I would adapt eventually and find women to talk to, but he knows it would stressful for me in the beginning. He is suppose to be finding out whether or not I would have to. Just wondering if there is anyone here who had this same experience or knows anything about this situation.
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    Why does he think you'd have to move on base?
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    You wouldn't have to move on base you can get a place. I don't get why he thinks you would have to move there. You could get married and just look for a place to live. I don't know this would be something you would need to figure out with him. I am not going to live on base we are looking for an apartment or a house to rent instead of live on the base
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    well i dont think he has really looked into everything but his roomate there just got married and him and his wife now live on base and he thinks that we would have to do the same. Eventually when he gets back from Iraq I would make the move there but just not while hes not there with me.
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    As far as I know, they cannot make YOU do anything. When he gets back, they can make him live on base, but I hear this very rarely happens. He will still get BAH so you will have money for a place where you are living currently, or if you are living with family, you still get the BAH and can put it into a savings account.
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    They can't require you to move on base as far as I am aware.

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    I've never heard of a spouse being forced to live on base. Usually you'd have to go through the whole wait list process, and that's if you WANT to be in base housing.

    Plenty of SOs go back home/live with family while the other is deployed.
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    Thanks this has really helped tons!!! I think that since its something we've recently been talking about that he hasnt looked into all the info.
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    We got married 3 weeks before DH deployed. So if you have any questions I've been there. Just PM me.

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    okay i will. And thanks again. I really appreciate the advice!
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