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    Medical condition VS TDY's/relocations/deployment

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    Hi, was wondering if anybody could help me? I was diagnosed last year with a medical condition that requires my seeing a specialist frequently. While I have my "good" and "bad" days, these past few months have been really rough on me. My meds don't seem to be working like they used to and I'm in a lot more pain than usual. My husband deployed in January, so he's not here to help me like he used to. All I have now to rely on is my 11 year old who helps me get dressed, shower and do normal every day things on my bad days. That's a lot to ask of her and I feel bad having to depend on her and ask for her help a lot. Some days are so bad that I just break down and cry from the pain, frustration and feelings of inadequacy. I'm used to being strong, independent and being able to doing things for myself, yet here I am now relying on my 11 year old. My husband will be home by summer, thank God, so I am trying to make it through until then.

    Here's where I need advice. Since I need to see a specialist, I heard that my husband can only be sent to places where that specialist is available. So, I asked the Commander's wife (who happens to be my Key Spouse), what all do I/my husband need to do paperworkwise. She said that my doctor has to fill out a certain form that will then be placed in my husband's profile that states we can only be sent to those places where that specialist is available. I then asked her about future deployments. She did not have the answer to that. Later she got back to me stating that she talked with the First Shirt and unfortunately, my husband can be sent on TDY's, 365s and deployments. Here is where I'm stressing out. Deployments are hard enough as it is when you're healthy, but since I'm not, this makes it even worse.

    My medical condition is not and will never get better. Only thing I can hope for is that with the proper meds, they will stabilize my condition some.
    My husband's only been gone 4 months...there is no way in hell I can ever make it through another deployment, let alone Korea for a year or any other place he may get sent to without me. My husband says he knows of 2 guys in his old shop who were non-deployable due, one due to his wife's medical condition (the other I'm not sure about). Now I'm being told that the First Shirt said there's nothing like that. Which scares me. I just want to know if what I'm being told is the truth. I've run into quite a few people who think they know more than they really do, so I just want to know if what he's saying is the truth (not saying he's a liar, he just may not know everything). I just want to know what my rights are, what can and can't be done. If any of you can help me in any way, it'll be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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    Well the first thing you need to do is get enrolled in the EFMP system. They'll assign you a category and ensure you have access to the specialists. The EFMP form is the DD 2792, or you can call your local post EFMP office to find out the proper procedures.

    From what I understand and in my experience, family situations do not come into consideration for short term assignments. It's always the needs of the military first. It only affects the duty station assignments.

    They deployed my DH for 15 months and told me to suck it up and deal with it when I had a back injury that left me in the same position you are. I couldn't do anything alone. Granted we are Army, so perhaps the Air Force has other options available to you.

    You may be able to check into having a home care nurse or something come in to help you for a short time every day. I'm sure you will have to ask Tricare to authorize that one.

    I wish you good luck with your situation.

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    They may be able to authorize a move for you and your family closer to home while he is on a 365, Korea, deployed etc. Otherwise you could move on your own closer to home where someone could help you out, you just would recieve the housing allowance for the base that he's at.

    And Rei is right, you should get enrolled in EFMP, he could actually get in trouble if you don't and that will make it so you guys can only PCS to bases where you can get proper medical.
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    EFMP is what you need to do. My son went through cancer treatment when he was 2. Because of the catagory he was placed at in the EFM program, DH was able to transfer from sea duty to shore duty 2 years early.
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    i reccommend emfp and he may be able to get out but i dont think they wont deploy him.
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    Everyone is right so far about the EFMP (Exceptional Family Member Program). That is the program that you need to register with and it will limit which bases you/your DH can be stationed at.

    My DH is Air Force and I have some pretty serious medical issues as well. While he is here they are very understanding and he is able to come home when I need to go to appointments or stay home to take care of me on bad days. Unfortunately, basically accommodating your needs while he is home is the most they can really do. IF your condition is so severe that he is required to be home, then they can ultimately offer or your DH can ask for voluntary separation.

    Part of registering for the EFMP requires you to have a family care plan which involves making a plan to take care of your needs while your DH is away. If you don't have family/friends in the area you are now, then perhaps you can get your doctor to approve for a home health nurse to come in and help out or they can authorize a move closer to where you have family that can help you out.

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    Thanks everbody! Took me awhile to get back online cause my comp went kaput. Am so grateful to you all for your help and advice!

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