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    We got our orders today, so from MD we are moving to GA. My mom is distraught. How do I help her? It hurts me to see her hurt but I dont know what to do?
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    Just remind her how close you guys really are. You won't be across the country or in the middle of nowhere. Change is always hard.
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    My mother thought the world was coming to an end when I told her that DH and I were PCSing. You'd think I had died or something.
    My mother has a habit of making everything about her, and when I needed her the most, she couldn't be there for me. I was having a hard time with moving away, but all she cared about was how it affected her. So, on top of me already being upset about moving, I felt even worse about making my mom sad. It would have been nice if she had at least pretended to be ok with it.

    The only advice I can give you is just to sit down and explain to her that you have to go with your husband. He is your husband. You love her, and you want her to be happy, but you married a man in the military, and unfortunately, that means moving sometimes.
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    that is a great perspective!
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    SHe will only be a 12 hour drive away. That's not too bad. Doable in a day, even by one person.
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    not to long ago i got in an argument with my daughters father because i was telling him about the move. i asked him not to comment on what i am telling him becaue i really couldnt handle it. i am in a really fragile state right now. do you know he turned around and told me that i dont care about anyone else's feelings anyway?!?! he told me that i was incredibly selfish for moving...really im selfish for wanting my family to be together. im selfish for wanting to be with my husband! GTFOH!
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    Being a military spouse is especially difficult when dealing with a family that doesn't accept change well. It's always hard on family when you move away but I don't see how doing what is in the best interest of your family is selfish? I'm afraid you'll find that your family won't be very understanding of many of the choices you'll have to make as a military spouse. It's going to be hard, but you can do it.
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    Georgia's not so bad, it's where I'm from. It's only a day car trip away just remind your mom of that. She's gotta understand that you have to do this, it's not like he can say "no thanks I don't think I want to go to Georgia." Good luck hun!
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