I need some advice!

So honey called and woke me up at 3 this morning (his only form of entertainment while he's in Iraq is waking my ass up) and informed he's going career. He was supposed to get out in February. So much for that. I'd follow him around the world, sneak in his bag if need be. So I guess what I need is some advice on how to prepare myself (mentally, emotionally, physically, etc.) that I'm going to be a Navy wife! Well eventually anyways, maybe in about a year. I'm freakin a little. Any advice would be SUPER appreciated!!

[aak6572]

I'll be watching the posts on this one too because I am a new navy wife as well. It's been great while on shore duty, but we are moving soon and sure I'm totally prepared for how much I will miss him.

Just keep yourself busy and make sure that you aren't dependant on him!

[rosebud*]

Not only that, but don't closet yourself in your house just because he is gone. You need to make friends and have a life. Also don't try and be soo strong that you never cry or miss him because that might make it more difficult when he gets back or goes away again. You do have to have your stages of grief. Believe me I know, me and dh have been married 9 and a half years and it doesn't get any easier, but I always know I can handle the situation.

[Callie]

There is no real magic advice that I can give you. Experience is the key. Being a Navy Wife has it's advantages and it's disadvantages. It is all in the way you can handle it. I had somewhat of a hard time my first year, but as time goes on it gets eaiser. The best thing to do it not to become too dependant on him that way when he is gone you will have something to keep you occupied. Such as school, work, etc...

[galxy8]

Take it one day at a time. If you try to think way tooo far into the future, you'll feel overwhelmed. And like Rosebud said, have hobbies . . . ways to keep you busy if/when he gets deployed. I took a lot of community college "fun" classes and spent a lot of time with friends, as well as talking on the phone A LOT with people. As for what to expect . . . never expect things to be concrete and set in stone when it comes to his schedule, because they will change a lot. Knowing that will prevent a lot of tears and being upset over changes and you both will be a lot happier that way, because then he won't feel so guilty for choosing the career he's chosen. Anyways, Sweetie, you'll be fine, just try not to freak out too often or too much. It'll keep you more sane that way.